Ok, I met this girl at my last job and we became good friends, hit it off. I want to say soul mates, we grew close. She is 42. She invited me to FLA with her, and I went, we had a great time. Our friendship accually survived the drive down and back.
She said she used to drink and "smoke" quite a bit, we would drink a little when together, but I don't do drugs, and really frown on people that do, as I have close relative that is a recovering addict. My friend said she no longer "smokes", she does not like it anymore.
We were just good friends, it did not get to be any more, but the potential is there for it to. I got another job and left the job where we met, but we still talked/ hung out.
Anyway, about a month ago, when I would call her and leave a message, asking if she wanted to hang out or do something, she never got back to me. I only called like 3 times in 4 weeks, but its not like her to at least get back to me. So I thought she was mad at me, and did not want to see me anymore. I thought this was ok, but I wanted to tell her what a positve impact she had on my life, she helped me alot, so I sent her a little card telling her how I felt, and what she did, and if she never wanted to see me again, I was ok with it. A few days later, i get a letter from her saying she loved the card, still thinks of me and likes to be friends, and would love to get together like we used to, and "has her head up her a$$". Her words, not mine. She said I could call her anytime and she would call me.
So I called her once, the day I got the letter. Then I called her today, and still nothing. Why would she say she wants to still get together with me and then not return my calls? I'm getting mixed signals, but more importantlly, I'm worried about Her.
I have had experences with people that do drugs. This behavior I have seen in her I have also seen in addicts. Should I try and get closer, see if she is back using drugs, and help her? Or should I just let it go and leave it be?
She said she used to drink and "smoke" quite a bit, we would drink a little when together, but I don't do drugs, and really frown on people that do, as I have close relative that is a recovering addict. My friend said she no longer "smokes", she does not like it anymore.
We were just good friends, it did not get to be any more, but the potential is there for it to. I got another job and left the job where we met, but we still talked/ hung out.
Anyway, about a month ago, when I would call her and leave a message, asking if she wanted to hang out or do something, she never got back to me. I only called like 3 times in 4 weeks, but its not like her to at least get back to me. So I thought she was mad at me, and did not want to see me anymore. I thought this was ok, but I wanted to tell her what a positve impact she had on my life, she helped me alot, so I sent her a little card telling her how I felt, and what she did, and if she never wanted to see me again, I was ok with it. A few days later, i get a letter from her saying she loved the card, still thinks of me and likes to be friends, and would love to get together like we used to, and "has her head up her a$$". Her words, not mine. She said I could call her anytime and she would call me.
So I called her once, the day I got the letter. Then I called her today, and still nothing. Why would she say she wants to still get together with me and then not return my calls? I'm getting mixed signals, but more importantlly, I'm worried about Her.
I have had experences with people that do drugs. This behavior I have seen in her I have also seen in addicts. Should I try and get closer, see if she is back using drugs, and help her? Or should I just let it go and leave it be?