MadMaxim
First Post
I don't know if it's the right place to ask this question, but I'd very much like some advice in this matter as it seriously bothers me. Okay, here goes:
A good friend of mine has just moved into an apartment together with his girlfriend. He's 23, she turns 18 in a few weeks. The problem is that he's the only one to pay the bills and she sits around doing nothing all day. She doesn't have any plans about getting an education and she has this little dream of becoming an actress. I've tried to ask my friend to ask her to get a job, since he cannot keep on paying all the bills by himself while maintaining a proper living standard. He doesn't really press her hard enough to get a job, but I seriously think she has to start paying her share of the living expenses and I keep asking her how she's doing with the job search. Her only excuse is that she's in a local musical that's currently being set up. This doesn't strike me as a good enough excuse to not go looking for a job. I currently work in a warehouse and offered her to ask if the company was currently hiring (which it actually is), but she didn't want to work in warehouse. So, what should I do?
I haven't known her that long, but both her and my friend are currently in the gaming group that I run and I really don't want to mess up something with my friend. Strangely enough he has given me permission to ask her to get a job, as if he's afraid of keep asking her himself. He could possibly be afraid of losing her, but if it doesn't take more than that to break up their relationship I don't think it's strong enough. But could any of you give me some advice based on these facts? Thanks in advance.
A good friend of mine has just moved into an apartment together with his girlfriend. He's 23, she turns 18 in a few weeks. The problem is that he's the only one to pay the bills and she sits around doing nothing all day. She doesn't have any plans about getting an education and she has this little dream of becoming an actress. I've tried to ask my friend to ask her to get a job, since he cannot keep on paying all the bills by himself while maintaining a proper living standard. He doesn't really press her hard enough to get a job, but I seriously think she has to start paying her share of the living expenses and I keep asking her how she's doing with the job search. Her only excuse is that she's in a local musical that's currently being set up. This doesn't strike me as a good enough excuse to not go looking for a job. I currently work in a warehouse and offered her to ask if the company was currently hiring (which it actually is), but she didn't want to work in warehouse. So, what should I do?
I haven't known her that long, but both her and my friend are currently in the gaming group that I run and I really don't want to mess up something with my friend. Strangely enough he has given me permission to ask her to get a job, as if he's afraid of keep asking her himself. He could possibly be afraid of losing her, but if it doesn't take more than that to break up their relationship I don't think it's strong enough. But could any of you give me some advice based on these facts? Thanks in advance.
I don't consider her essential as such. She's only been with the group for the last six months so she's not an integrated part of the group. I wouldn't call her hot more in the terms of cute.
