Does anyone else remember how condescending and insulting toward 3e players the 4e team was when it released?
I remember many people feeling the 4e team was condescending and insulting. But that doesn't mean they intended to come across that way, or that they actually felt condescension towards the audience. In any communication, there's what was intended, what was said, and what was heard. Sometimes, they don't all match up.
We cannot have everything. Developers are developers, and they may not be masters of communication. If we want direct contact with the dev team, we ought to cut them some slack, and accept that the communication is going to be lumpy. If we want sterling communications, then we need to accept they'll be laundered, bleached, starched, and pressed between the developers and the audience.