TanithT
First Post
I guess and I am wondering... maybe it's a confusion in me... but I refer to myself as a gamer chick, it's over there under my name and it never crossed my mind to think if it might offend... but I often just think of me as just a girl, ya know? And when others talk to me in general conversation I would rather someone refer to me as "hey girl," instead of "hey woman." Idk, maybe it's just me...
I can't really tell you how to label yourself. I can only set my own boundaries about the labels I want applied to me, and explain why I feel that way.
There are social consequences to using labels that can be perceived as condescending or derogatory. In small ways, the consequences of your choices may affect other women. But most of all it's you who is being directly affected, so it has to be your decision. The absolute most I would ask is that you don't imply that those labels are appropriate for all women, whether they are cis or trans.
Being a transgender woman in this hobby of ours is tough... the many guys are wondering why do I do this to myself and with other girls I get two reactions... either they are totally cool or completely horrified.
Being a transgendered person at all is tough. You have my deepest respect for having the courage to show your real self in the face of social censure and rejection.
So I am just wondering if I should change the gamer chick part? Finding acceptance these last couple years, here in Salem, has been difficult to say the least.
If you don't have a decent LGBT community in your area, move if you can. Seriously. It gets better when you do.
As I've been saying to the cisgendered men, my experience and perspective is fundamentally different enough from a transwoman's that it is not my place to tell you how you "should" feel. I'd be an absolute ass if I even tried. I'm not here to invalidate your experience or tell you how you have to self-identify. If it floats your boat to be a gamer chick, it's not any of my beeswax to say you can't personally be that. Even if I emphatically don't want that label applied to me, or to women in general.