a character being raped in a game concerns me less than a person's life in the hobby being affected forever.
You say that, as if a player being told their character had been repeatedly raped while unconscious, and was about to be raped again, or murdered, or both, was an event which could not possibly affect THAT PLAYER's life in the hobby forever.
I can imagine a real-life rape survivor, playing in Rolfe's game, who afterwards flinched, every time she remembered Rolfe taking delight in her shocked face. If that flinch made her too uncomfortable to enjoy gaming, ever again, at ANY con... then I could not blame her for that flinch. That is: HER life in the hobby was affected forever.
I'm not really saying this for your benefit. I've seen your responses so far, so I know what to expect. You're on record as denying that *crying* is an understandable response to thinking about the time (or times) one was raped. I'm pointing out that Rolfe is not the ONLY one whose gaming life is affected, for any reader who benefits from my drawing lines to connect those dots.