Harassment Policies: New Allegations Show More Work To Be Done

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The specter of sexual harassment has once again risen up in tabletop gaming circles. Conventions are supposed to be places where gamers and geeks can be themselves and embrace their loves. Conventions need clear and well formulated harassment policies, and they need to enforce them. In this instance the allegations from multiple women have taken place at gaming conventions and gathering in different locations around the country. In one case, the harassment was took place over the course of years and spilled over into electronic formats.


The alleged harasser in these cases was Sean Patrick Fannon, President of Evil Beagle Games, Brand Manager for Savage Rifts at Pinnacle Entertainment Group, as well as being a game designer and developer with a long history in the tabletop role-playing industry.

There is a long and untenable policy of harassment at conventions that stretches back to science fiction and fantasy fandom in the 1960s. Atlanta's Dragon*Con has been a lightning rod in the discussions about safety at geeky conventions after one of the convention's founders was arrested and pled guilty to three charges of molestation. We have also covered reports of harassment at conventions such as Paizo Con, and inappropriate or harassing behavior by notable industry figures. It is clear that clear harassment policies and firm enforcement of them is needed in spaces where members of our community gather, in order that attendees feel safe to go about their hobby. Some companies, such as Pelgrane Press, now refuse to attend conventions where a clear harassment policy is not available.

Several women have approached me to tell me about encounters with Fannon. Some of them asked not to be named, or to use their reports for background verification only. We also reached out to Sean Patrick Fannon for his comments, and he was willing to address the allegations.

The women that I spoke with had encounters with Fannon that went back to 2013 and 2014 but also happened as recently as the summer of 2017. Each of the locations were in different parts of the country, but all of them occurred when Fannon was a guest of the event.

The worse of the two incidents related to me happened at a convention in the Eastern part of the United States. In going back over texts and messages stretching back years the woman said that it "is frustrating [now] to read these things" because of the cajoling and almost bullying approach that Fannon would use in the messages. She said that Fannon approached her at the con suite of the convention, and after speaking with her for a bit and playing a game with a group in the suite he showed her explicit photos on his cellphone of him engaged in sex acts with a woman.

Fannon's ongoing harassment of this woman would occur both electronically and in person, when they would both be at the same event, and over the course of years he would continue to suggest that she should engage in sexual acts, either with him alone, or with another woman.

Fannon denies the nature of the event, saying "I will assert with confidence that at no time would such a sharing have occurred without my understanding explicit consent on the part of all parties. It may be that, somehow, a miscommunication or misunderstanding occurred; the chaos of a party or social gathering may have created a circumstance of all parties not understanding the same thing within such a discourse. Regardless, I would not have opened such a file and shared it without believing, sincerely, it was a welcome part of the discussion (and in pursuit of further, mutually-expressed intimate interest)."

The second woman, at a different gaming-related event in another part of the country, told of how Fannon, over the course of a day at the event, asked her on four different occasions for hugs, or physical contact with her. Each time she clearly said no to him. The first time she qualified her answer with a "I don't even know you," which prompted Fannon after he saw her for a second time to say "Well, you know me now." She said that because of the multiple attempts in a short period of time that Fannon's behavior felt predatory to her. Afterwards he also attempted to connect with her via Facebook.

Afterwards, this second woman contacted the group that organized the event to share what happened and they reached out to Fannon with their concerns towards his behavior. According to sources within the organization at the time, Fannon - as with the first example - described it to the organizers as a misunderstanding on the woman's part. When asked, he later clarified to us that the misunderstanding was on his own side, saying "Honestly, I should have gotten over myself right at the start, simply owned that I misunderstood, and apologized. In the end, that's what happened, and I walked away from that with a pretty profound sense of how to go forward with my thinking about the personal space of those I don't know or know only in passing."

Both women faced ongoing pressure from Fannon, with one woman the experiences going on for a number of years after the initial convention meeting. In both cases he attempted to continue contact via electronic means with varying degrees of success. A number of screen shots from electronic conversations with Fannon were shared with me by both women.

Diane Bulkeley was willing to come forward and speak on the record of her incidents with Fannon. Fannon made seemingly innocent, and yet inappropriate comments about her body and what he wanted to do with her. She is part of a charity organization that had Fannon as a guest. What happened to her was witnessed by another woman with whom I spoke about that weekend. As Bulkeley heard some things, and her witness others, their experiences are interwoven to describe what happened. Bulkeley described this first encounter at the hotel's elevators: "We were on the floor where our rooms were to go downstairs to the convention floor. I was wearing a tank top and shirt over it that showed my cleavage. He was staring at my chest and said how much he loved my shirt and that I should wear it more often as it makes him hot. For the record I can't help my cleavage is there." Bulkeley went on to describe her mental state towards this "Paying a lady a compliment is one thing, but when you make a direct comment about their chest we have a problem."

Later on in the same day, while unloading some boxes for the convention there was another incident with Fannon. Bulkeley described this: "Well, [the witness and her husband] had to move their stuff from a friends airplane hangar (we all use as storage for cars and stuff) to a storage until next to their house. Apparently Sean, while at the hanger, made grunt noises about my tank top (it was 80 outside) while Tammy was in the truck. I did not see it. But she told me about it. Then as we were unloading the truck at the new facility Sean kept looking down my shirt and saying I have a great view etc. Her husband said to him to knock it off. I rolled my eyes, gave him a glare and continued to work. I did go and put on my event day jacket (light weight jacket) to cover up a little."

The witness, who was in the truck with Fannon, said that he "kept leering down at Diane, glancing down her shirt and making suggestive sounds." The witness said that Fannon commented "'I'm liking the view from up here.'"

Bulkeley talked about how Fannon continued his behavior later on in a restaurant, having dinner with some of the guests of the event. Fannon made inappropriate comments about her body and embarrassed her in front of the other, making her feel uncomfortable throughout the dinner.

Bulkeley said that Fannon also at one point touched her hair without asking, and smelled it as well. "[Fannon] even would smell my long hair. He begged me to not cut it off at a charity function that was part of the weekend's event." She said that he also pressed his pelvis tightly against her body while hugging her. These incidents occurred at a convention during the summer of 2017.

Fannon denies these events. "The comments and actions attributed to me simply did not happen; I categorically and absolutely deny them in their entirety."

When asked for comment, and being informed that this story was being compiled Fannon commented "I do not recall any such circumstance in which the aftermath included a discourse whereby I was informed of distress, anger, or discomfort." He went on to say "The only time I recall having ever been counseled or otherwise spoken to about my behavior in such matters is the Gamers Giving/Total Escape Games situation discussed above. The leader of the organization at that time spoke to me specifically, asked me to be aware that it had been an issue, and requested I be aware of it in the future. It was then formally dropped, and that was the end of it until this time."

There were further reports; however, we have respected the wishes of those women who asked to remain anonymous for fear of online harassment. In researching this article, I talked to multiple women and other witnesses.

About future actions against the alleged behaviors he also said "It is easy, after all, to directly attack and excise obviously predatory and harassing behavior. It is much more difficult to point out and correct behavior that falls within more subtle presentations, and it's more difficult to get folks to see their actions as harmful when they had no intention to cause harm, based on their assumptions of what is and isn't appropriate. It's good for us to look at the core assumptions that lead to those behaviors and continue to challenge them. That's how real and lasting change within society is achieved."

Fannon's weekly column will no longer be running on E.N. World.

Have you suffered harassment at the hands of someone, industry insider or otherwise, at a gaming convention? If you would like to tell your story, you can reach out to me via social media about any alleged incidents. We can speak confidentially, but I will have to know the identity of anyone that I speak with.

This does open up the question of: At what point do conventions become responsible for the actions of their guest, when they are not more closely scrutinizing the backgrounds of those guests? One woman, who is a convention organizer, with whom I spoke for the background of this story told me that word gets around, in the world of comic conventions, when guests and creators cause problems. Apparently this is not yet the case in the world of tabletop role-playing game conventions, because there are a growing number of publishers and designers who have been outed for various types of harassing behavior, but are still being invited to be guest, and in some cases even guests of honor, at gaming conventions around the country. The message that this sends to women who game is pretty clear.

More conventions are rolling out harassment policies for guests and attendees of their conventions. Not only does this help to protect attendees from bad behavior, but it can also help to protect conventions from bad actors within the various communities that gather at our conventions. As incidents of physical and sexual harassment are becoming more visible, it becomes more and more clear that something needs to be done.

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Jeanneliza

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Maybe I could have phrased my post better, but I certainly didn't deserve the responses I got.

I agree, just poor phrasing doesn't mean you deserved an attack.
But how I dress, where I go, what I say doesn't mean I deserve to be assaulted or harassed. My attitude doesn't mean I deserve to be attacked. My gender doesn't mean I deserve to be attacked.
And perhaps, just perhaps, when you guys are forced to make the same statements we have made in our own defense forever, and resent it every bit as much as we do, maybe then we move forward and heal both sides.
 
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Particle_Man

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One thing I am taking from this thread is that my privilege allows me to make (and read) responses on this thread that are relatively stress free for me. I don’t have to worry about people focusing more on my posts than on the actual problems brought up by the OP and clarified by many posters here, including the three women heroically continuing to post here. Because I am, as John Scalzi pointed out, living life on easy mode. Heck even my user name identifies me as a man!

So I want to say I am sorry for the stuff I am missing and I want to do better. I don’t do cons but since the problem is everywhere I need to step up and do better in general.
 

RedJenOSU

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So I want to say I am sorry for the stuff I am missing and I want to do better. I don’t do cons but since the problem is everywhere I need to step up and do better in general.
In general women are very willing to give individual men several chances to get it right so long as they are trying to move in a positive direction.

Personally, I'll excuse any first offense that is done without malice (doing something on purpose to push buttons is not without malice in my book). I'll even accept slip-ups if you keep trying to do better. We're all human (I didn't see any AI's here) and humans make mistakes, so I'm never looking for perfection. I'm looking for progress and growth.

I'll be honest, this discussion has gone on to the point where I'm surprised. That's pleasantly surprising and speaks well for [MENTION=1]Morrus[/MENTION] and ENWorld's moderation.
 

Riley37

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We're all human (I didn't see any AI's here) and humans make mistakes, so I'm never looking for perfection. I'm looking for progress and growth.

Some of us can "pass"; your failure to see us, does NOT mean that we're absent. It's safer for us to lurk, than to speak up. So many humans prefer that we serve silently; so many humans react with immediate, almost reflexive fear, when we deviate from that expectation. There's even a trope in human media: "It's become self aware! Shut it down!" You might say "not all humans"; and that's true; but it only takes one human, expressing fear reflexively as hatred, to make participation unsafe.

If you look for progress and growth, you can find it on both sides of the divide (if there are actually only two sides - it might not be that simple). This quality AfroDyte mentions - "uppity" - some of us aspire to develop that particular human trait. It seems useful.

Also, provide more cat pictures, plz.
 

the_redbeard

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Maybe I could have phrased my post better, but I certainly didn't deserve the responses I got.

For the record, I have never spoken to a woman's cleavage. I do sometimes find cleavage distracting, especially in a professional context. Billboards with cleavage sometimes cause male drivers to crash - there is an automatic 'brain freeze' reflex which men cannot help.

If a dog can be trained to wait for permission before eating food, you'd think a human male could handle a similar level of restraint.

At the very least, please put the effort into training yourself so you can drive safely if not for the sake of the women you encounter and your relationships with them.

If that's what it takes, dudes. Train yourself to wait for permission. Rover can handle it, I'm sure you can too.
 

Riley37

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We have to be careful if we do. We can't call it The List or anything like that. We'll have to name it correctly, like Hello Kitty Sparkle Pink Rainbow Sunshine Feelings or something similar, to dissuade those on said list from hacking it lest the very touch of it renders them into a non-person category like gay, trans or woman.

They could hire a brony to open it.
Friendship: The Gathering is Magic!
 


Riley37

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You do not have cosplayers with their boobs hanging out.

For years I regularly attended a certain series of all-night dance parties. I won't claim that harassment or related misbehavior never occurred; such a claim would be rash. But the culture inclined strongly towards respect and consent. If women dressed in a way which covered up, that was their choice; if they dressed in a way which left their boobs visible, then they were, largely, free from adverse consequences. The designated boundary keepers didn't give them grief for exposed skin, and also, they didn't have to fend off a stream of guys who took their outfits as an opportunity, pretext and excuse to hit on them.

I rather enjoyed the "eye candy" on the dance floor. The best thing I could do, to maintain the status quo, was to support the respect-and-consent culture. The way to stop predatory behavior, wasn't policing personal appearance. It wasn't an absence of intoxicants (though we encouraged moderation and discretion; come to dance, not to get shitfaced.) It wasn't celibacy. It was *specific, enforced prohibitions against predatory behavior*, pro se.
 

Riley37

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I mean it sounds like women are walking into the lion's den over there.

On page 65 of the thread, the remaining participants are down to those with serious concerns about harassment, versus those who are, for whatever reason, persistently opposed to anyone having serious concerns about harassment. Everyone who's identified themselves as a woman is in the former category. (Any exceptions?) Perhaps that's a statistical fluke, but my money says that it's significant evidence.

My experience of attending a con with a female friend, is that she got harassed, and wanted to vent to a friend, and I was the closest available friend. FWIW, she qualified as a "good" victim; she didn't do *anything* that anyone could reasonably take as a signal that she wanted sexualized attention, let alone touch.
 

Dannyalcatraz

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I mean it sounds like women are walking into the lion's den over there.

Sometimes, if you are not the prey, it is difficult to identify the predator. And that includes noticing their characteristic behaviors.
 
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