Harassment Policies: New Allegations Show More Work To Be Done

The specter of sexual harassment has once again risen up in tabletop gaming circles. Conventions are supposed to be places where gamers and geeks can be themselves and embrace their loves. Conventions need clear and well formulated harassment policies, and they need to enforce them. In this instance the allegations from multiple women have taken place at gaming conventions and gathering in different locations around the country. In one case, the harassment was took place over the course of years and spilled over into electronic formats.

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The specter of sexual harassment has once again risen up in tabletop gaming circles. Conventions are supposed to be places where gamers and geeks can be themselves and embrace their loves. Conventions need clear and well formulated harassment policies, and they need to enforce them. In this instance the allegations from multiple women have taken place at gaming conventions and gathering in different locations around the country. In one case, the harassment was took place over the course of years and spilled over into electronic formats.


The alleged harasser in these cases was Sean Patrick Fannon, President of Evil Beagle Games, Brand Manager for Savage Rifts at Pinnacle Entertainment Group, as well as being a game designer and developer with a long history in the tabletop role-playing industry.

There is a long and untenable policy of harassment at conventions that stretches back to science fiction and fantasy fandom in the 1960s. Atlanta's Dragon*Con has been a lightning rod in the discussions about safety at geeky conventions after one of the convention's founders was arrested and pled guilty to three charges of molestation. We have also covered reports of harassment at conventions such as Paizo Con, and inappropriate or harassing behavior by notable industry figures. It is clear that clear harassment policies and firm enforcement of them is needed in spaces where members of our community gather, in order that attendees feel safe to go about their hobby. Some companies, such as Pelgrane Press, now refuse to attend conventions where a clear harassment policy is not available.

Several women have approached me to tell me about encounters with Fannon. Some of them asked not to be named, or to use their reports for background verification only. We also reached out to Sean Patrick Fannon for his comments, and he was willing to address the allegations.

The women that I spoke with had encounters with Fannon that went back to 2013 and 2014 but also happened as recently as the summer of 2017. Each of the locations were in different parts of the country, but all of them occurred when Fannon was a guest of the event.

The worse of the two incidents related to me happened at a convention in the Eastern part of the United States. In going back over texts and messages stretching back years the woman said that it "is frustrating [now] to read these things" because of the cajoling and almost bullying approach that Fannon would use in the messages. She said that Fannon approached her at the con suite of the convention, and after speaking with her for a bit and playing a game with a group in the suite he showed her explicit photos on his cellphone of him engaged in sex acts with a woman.

Fannon's ongoing harassment of this woman would occur both electronically and in person, when they would both be at the same event, and over the course of years he would continue to suggest that she should engage in sexual acts, either with him alone, or with another woman.

Fannon denies the nature of the event, saying "I will assert with confidence that at no time would such a sharing have occurred without my understanding explicit consent on the part of all parties. It may be that, somehow, a miscommunication or misunderstanding occurred; the chaos of a party or social gathering may have created a circumstance of all parties not understanding the same thing within such a discourse. Regardless, I would not have opened such a file and shared it without believing, sincerely, it was a welcome part of the discussion (and in pursuit of further, mutually-expressed intimate interest)."

The second woman, at a different gaming-related event in another part of the country, told of how Fannon, over the course of a day at the event, asked her on four different occasions for hugs, or physical contact with her. Each time she clearly said no to him. The first time she qualified her answer with a "I don't even know you," which prompted Fannon after he saw her for a second time to say "Well, you know me now." She said that because of the multiple attempts in a short period of time that Fannon's behavior felt predatory to her. Afterwards he also attempted to connect with her via Facebook.

Afterwards, this second woman contacted the group that organized the event to share what happened and they reached out to Fannon with their concerns towards his behavior. According to sources within the organization at the time, Fannon - as with the first example - described it to the organizers as a misunderstanding on the woman's part. When asked, he later clarified to us that the misunderstanding was on his own side, saying "Honestly, I should have gotten over myself right at the start, simply owned that I misunderstood, and apologized. In the end, that's what happened, and I walked away from that with a pretty profound sense of how to go forward with my thinking about the personal space of those I don't know or know only in passing."

Both women faced ongoing pressure from Fannon, with one woman the experiences going on for a number of years after the initial convention meeting. In both cases he attempted to continue contact via electronic means with varying degrees of success. A number of screen shots from electronic conversations with Fannon were shared with me by both women.

Diane Bulkeley was willing to come forward and speak on the record of her incidents with Fannon. Fannon made seemingly innocent, and yet inappropriate comments about her body and what he wanted to do with her. She is part of a charity organization that had Fannon as a guest. What happened to her was witnessed by another woman with whom I spoke about that weekend. As Bulkeley heard some things, and her witness others, their experiences are interwoven to describe what happened. Bulkeley described this first encounter at the hotel's elevators: "We were on the floor where our rooms were to go downstairs to the convention floor. I was wearing a tank top and shirt over it that showed my cleavage. He was staring at my chest and said how much he loved my shirt and that I should wear it more often as it makes him hot. For the record I can't help my cleavage is there." Bulkeley went on to describe her mental state towards this "Paying a lady a compliment is one thing, but when you make a direct comment about their chest we have a problem."

Later on in the same day, while unloading some boxes for the convention there was another incident with Fannon. Bulkeley described this: "Well, [the witness and her husband] had to move their stuff from a friends airplane hangar (we all use as storage for cars and stuff) to a storage until next to their house. Apparently Sean, while at the hanger, made grunt noises about my tank top (it was 80 outside) while Tammy was in the truck. I did not see it. But she told me about it. Then as we were unloading the truck at the new facility Sean kept looking down my shirt and saying I have a great view etc. Her husband said to him to knock it off. I rolled my eyes, gave him a glare and continued to work. I did go and put on my event day jacket (light weight jacket) to cover up a little."

The witness, who was in the truck with Fannon, said that he "kept leering down at Diane, glancing down her shirt and making suggestive sounds." The witness said that Fannon commented "'I'm liking the view from up here.'"

Bulkeley talked about how Fannon continued his behavior later on in a restaurant, having dinner with some of the guests of the event. Fannon made inappropriate comments about her body and embarrassed her in front of the other, making her feel uncomfortable throughout the dinner.

Bulkeley said that Fannon also at one point touched her hair without asking, and smelled it as well. "[Fannon] even would smell my long hair. He begged me to not cut it off at a charity function that was part of the weekend's event." She said that he also pressed his pelvis tightly against her body while hugging her. These incidents occurred at a convention during the summer of 2017.

Fannon denies these events. "The comments and actions attributed to me simply did not happen; I categorically and absolutely deny them in their entirety."

When asked for comment, and being informed that this story was being compiled Fannon commented "I do not recall any such circumstance in which the aftermath included a discourse whereby I was informed of distress, anger, or discomfort." He went on to say "The only time I recall having ever been counseled or otherwise spoken to about my behavior in such matters is the Gamers Giving/Total Escape Games situation discussed above. The leader of the organization at that time spoke to me specifically, asked me to be aware that it had been an issue, and requested I be aware of it in the future. It was then formally dropped, and that was the end of it until this time."

There were further reports; however, we have respected the wishes of those women who asked to remain anonymous for fear of online harassment. In researching this article, I talked to multiple women and other witnesses.

About future actions against the alleged behaviors he also said "It is easy, after all, to directly attack and excise obviously predatory and harassing behavior. It is much more difficult to point out and correct behavior that falls within more subtle presentations, and it's more difficult to get folks to see their actions as harmful when they had no intention to cause harm, based on their assumptions of what is and isn't appropriate. It's good for us to look at the core assumptions that lead to those behaviors and continue to challenge them. That's how real and lasting change within society is achieved."

Fannon's weekly column will no longer be running on E.N. World.

Have you suffered harassment at the hands of someone, industry insider or otherwise, at a gaming convention? If you would like to tell your story, you can reach out to me via social media about any alleged incidents. We can speak confidentially, but I will have to know the identity of anyone that I speak with.

This does open up the question of: At what point do conventions become responsible for the actions of their guest, when they are not more closely scrutinizing the backgrounds of those guests? One woman, who is a convention organizer, with whom I spoke for the background of this story told me that word gets around, in the world of comic conventions, when guests and creators cause problems. Apparently this is not yet the case in the world of tabletop role-playing game conventions, because there are a growing number of publishers and designers who have been outed for various types of harassing behavior, but are still being invited to be guest, and in some cases even guests of honor, at gaming conventions around the country. The message that this sends to women who game is pretty clear.

More conventions are rolling out harassment policies for guests and attendees of their conventions. Not only does this help to protect attendees from bad behavior, but it can also help to protect conventions from bad actors within the various communities that gather at our conventions. As incidents of physical and sexual harassment are becoming more visible, it becomes more and more clear that something needs to be done.

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Advilaar

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Is the use of the word "lady", intended as a compliment, literally a 100.0% accurate indicator of misogyny? Sometimes I think it might be.

I do not think they have changed the definition of that word YET. Though words are always changing. It sounds better than some other words.

People are funny though. What one person views as no big deal, the other views as a 40 dice meteor swarm towards their everything.

I say any person that would be offended by something so petty is not worth your time. I would leave their area immediately. If I was ambushed by a group of them, I'd run faster than a 5th level party from a adult blue dragon. Hopefully roll my stealth high enough while they get offended by other targets that taste better with ketchup.
 
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I do not think they have changed the definition of that word YET. Though words are always changing. It sounds better than some other words.

People are funny though. What one person views as no big deal, the other views as a 40 dice meteor swarm towards their everything.



Yeah, you are totally not getting this.

It's not that "lady" is...like some certain other words...an insulting/offensive word in itself. And I'm not saying that people always use "lady" as an insult. There are innocuous uses of the word (admittedly not many.)

It's that the use of lady as a compliment is indicative of the point of view of the speaker, and that point of view is rooted in misogyny and sexism because of the connotations it carries about how a "lady" should behave.

The protestation, "I'm not sexist! I would do anything to protect ladies from harm!" sounds gallant and all but it implies that women need you to protect them from harm.

What society really needs you to do is not talk about women in degrading ways in the locker room. If more people did that, fewer "ladies" would need rescuing.

I say any person that would be offended by something so petty is not worth your time. I would leave their area immediately. If I was ambushed by a group of them, I'd run faster than a 5th level party from a adult blue dragon. Hopefully roll my stealth high enough while they get offended by other targets that taste better with ketchup.

I would assert that, if you go around saying "lady", a fairly high % of the women you meet are offended, but choose not to say anything because they have been taught to, well, act like "ladies".
 
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There are types of conventions where you have little, if any harassment. Not sure it would be a lot of people's cup of tea.

They make a distinction between the professionals and the amateurs.

They also have just basic blanket rules of conduct like the pic of the GenCon deal in the article. Nothing more, nothing less. No forms in triplicate but a simple 5 to 7 rule policy that they make simple to enforce and covers all the bases that you agree to by accepting a visitor badge or vendor/VIP/speaker badge.

The floor of these trade shows are business environments. No cosplay is allowed, as per business dress codes, unless you have a booth and are a purveyor of cosplay clothing or unless you are paid to do this. While you are there, you are either there to buy merchandise, try products, network for a job, or attend seminars to network with other amateurs and professionals. Product demonstrations are only allowed to be run if sanctioned by the company itself and the company pays for the space. No one is allowed to just set up a table and do anything unless they have such a booth and are affiliated with that company.

There are still SOME night events and parties. Maybe a dance or a costume contest. But, there is no alcohol allowed there. It ends early and they watch people like hawks. You are there for networking and stuff, after all.

The open room parties are not sponsored by the convention in any private hotel room. This is strongly disallowed/discouraged and earns you an eviction from the hotel if there is even so much a peep. If a company or individual, however, wants to have a party that THEY arrange, of course they can at their own expense at an outside facility or rent out a small banquet room where it is on the company or individual or hotel, not the convention organizers.

Of course, if you do agree to go to go to someone you do not know's private hotel room, what happens after is not on the convention if you do wish to hook up with someone consentually.

This would probably appeal to some and there is a place for such things. It would also be pretty lame to a lot of others.

Any convention where there is no harassment, in my experience, either means:

A) They have aggressively worked against it, or

B) They have no publicly reported harassment (probably because "a simple 5 or 7 rule policy" isn't enough for a woman to feel comfortable reporting and have her situation taken seriously).

Sexual harassment happens in professional environments all the time. ALL OF THEM. Get a couple hundred people together for a weekend, and, sadly, there's almost a guarantee that harassment will take place. Heck, even scientific conventions are another area that has been working very hard to crack down on rampant sexual harassment at their conventions in recent years. I'm pretty sure they aren't marketing their convention around cosplaying and orgies.

You do not have cosplayers with their boobs hanging out.

Oh wait, I see who you are blaming here for harassment. Ug, never mind.
 


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Yeah, you are totally not getting this.

It's not that "lady" is...like some certain other words...an insulting/offensive word in itself. And I'm not saying that people always use "lady" as an insult. There are innocuous uses of the word (admittedly not many.)

It's that the use of lady as a compliment is indicative of the point of view of the speaker, and that point of view is rooted in misogyny and sexism because of the connotations it carries about how a "lady" should behave.

The protestation, "I'm not sexist! I would do anything to protect ladies from harm!" sounds gallant and all but it implies that women need you to protect them from harm.

What society really needs you to do is not talk about women in degrading ways in the locker room. If more people did that, fewer "ladies" would need rescuing.

If you want to use degrading words, there are far better words that have no ambiguity whatsoever to them. The meanings of those words are well known.

Just "ladies" is fine until someone changes the dictionary. I mean, we would not want half the population offended by restroom signs? No? Course, people have the right to feel offended how they please.

Now, as far as feeling the need to proclaim not being a sexist, my advice would be to leave any place that would question sexism or lack therof.
 

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The part that gets to me (that ALWAYS gets to me) is that the acts being described in these cases I can NEVER see myself doing, or never doing even with explicit permission of the parties concerned, even if I weren’t married. Showing pictures of myself or others engaged in sex acts? Engaging in hotel room hook-ups? Drunken groping or touching?

Yes, I’m older, married, and pretty conservative in my social activities; but even if I were single and looking for someone, I couldn’t see any of the behaviors described as OK. I’d have to know someone EXTREMELY well, the chemistry would have to be obvious, and God forbid I wouldn’t try to hook up with them at some lame-ass convention hotel room. It’s just when I hear these stories, and the most frequent defense is, “they misinterpreted my actions,” I’m trying really hard to understand when someone got the idea that the action in question was OK in the context of a public venue in the first place.

This very much this, I would also add not even in a private context at a game table say.
 

RedJenOSU

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I don't like the idea of "willingness to live with discomfort" as a measure because it's rather unclear of what it's measuring and it has the potential to be gendered. I don't want women with a high tolerance for :):):):):):) men to be "willing to live with lots of discomfort", and I don't want men to look at it as "I'm willing to live with making someone else uncomfortable." Is it a measure of how much an individual is willing to tolerate from others? Is it a measure of how much an individual is willing to tolerate themselves? Is it a measure of how willing I am to change my behaviour for the benefit of others? I don't have a good answer for that, and it starts delving into personal definitions of what is "reasonable" or "unreasonable", and that's why I think it's a poor measure.
For the record, what I believe you are referring to as "willingness to live with discomfort" is personal discomfort. Women live with this state practically 100% of the time we move outside our homes, play online games, or engage in a hot button topic on the internet. I'm not kidding; even in this space, I had to consider whether or not it was worth the risk to engage. If you think Afrodyte is joking, please consider the backlash that happened during GamerGate.

From the standpoint of "I'm willing to make someone else uncomfortable." and wondering just how much women are willing to tolerate, we've been tolerating for the sake of getting along and being part of the RPG community to this point. Our tolerance is high, but we are tired, and we no longer believe the fairy tale that letting things pass for the sake of avoiding conflict will lead to improvement as more people are included. Society is changing and we now have some support to make our frustrations and fears heard. It remains to be seen if people will hear us, then try to continue with the status quo or work with us to define a new set of collectively supported social norms.

As female gamer, I'm asking male gamers to voluntarily take on part of the personal discomfort burden that female gamers have been carrying alone.
 

Jeanneliza

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We have to be careful if we do. We can't call it The List or anything like that. We'll have to name it correctly, like Hello Kitty Sparkle Pink Rainbow Sunshine Feelings or something similar, to dissuade those on said list from hacking it lest the very touch of it renders them into a non-person category like gay, trans or woman.

Better yet, A Comparative Guide to Feminine Hygiene Products
 

RedJenOSU

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Actually a lot of the wargamer conventions are like that. You do not have cosplayers with their boobs hanging out.
The bolded... This type of statement implies that if something negative were to happen, the cosplayer instigated the approach with the magnetic power of their boobs.
 

Advilaar

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Any convention where there is no harassment, in my experience, either means:

A) They have aggressively worked against it, or

B) They have no publicly reported harassment (probably because "a simple 5 or 7 rule policy" isn't enough for a woman to feel comfortable reporting and have her situation taken seriously).

Sexual harassment happens in professional environments all the time. ALL OF THEM. Get a couple hundred people together for a weekend, and, sadly, there's almost a guarantee that harassment will take place. Heck, even scientific conventions are another area that has been working very hard to crack down on rampant sexual harassment at their conventions in recent years. I'm pretty sure they aren't marketing their convention around cosplaying and orgies.



Oh wait, I see who you are blaming here for harassment. Ug, never mind.

That is the reason you change the environment. It is much simpler than

You get rid of the room parties, the booze, and have a sensible dress code you eliminate the environment which breeds the behavior you do not want. If someone actually DOES do something, you intervene like you would anyone doing anything at your event. You ask them nicely to leave. If they do not leave, you have security escort them out. If it is especially egregious, you permaban him and any company he may represent.

Realize that, unfortunately, whenever you have drunk, single people of both genders it also attracts men that look for prey. If they do not get it there, they go elsewhere. Even communities with sex as a theme, like BDSM or poly communities have issues with higher numbers of predators because they at least seem like places a predator would enjoy.

By eliminating the proper hunting grounds, the predators must seek better hunting grounds. Let those people deal with it. Much easier than massive social engineering projects (with some very Orwellian things coming from the fringes)

Win-Win. Games get played, no ideologies, no hooking up, no distraction, just games!
 

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