Thomas Shey
Legend
At my table, your reality is irrelevant. That doesn't mean every conversation about D&D must come down to that but, if someone asks "what is relevant to D&D", it is absolutely my position that we each get to decide that for ourselves. So, in this specific conversation, my argument doesn't decay to that -- my argument is that.
D&D is not the game at your table. They are (probably) overlapping sets (presuming you play something you consider D&D) but not identical sets. Something can apply to the external set and not the internal one and vice versa.
I don't see why there has to be agreement. I mean, I agree it's something. But I most certainly don't have to agree that it's what someone else says it is.
Nor do I think that everybody treating D&D as whatever they want to treat it as prevents discussion. I mean, it looks like we disagree, but we're still discussing it and, even if we can't hammer out some precise, technical definition of what D&D is that we both agree on, I'm pretty confident that we have more in common than not, and we can both look at 100 examples of things that might be D&D, and we'd put most stuff in the same "is D&D" and "isn't D&D" buckets.
You aren't discussing it. You're discussing with the conversation at hand can meaningfully occur. Its a metadiscussion of the topic.








