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Message: <blockquote data-quote="amazingshafeman" data-source="post: 2301456" data-attributes="member: 29870">My game group is made up of four players beside myself (I DM).  Of the four, one is my fiance, I work with another 2 to 3 times a week, one is a close friend, and the other is said friends roommate.  Now, because of when I see them, my fiance and coworker are very into the game, so we chat about it all the time.  My friend is also really into his character, so he and I quite often have RP sessions alone as his character is doing some in depth research with his mentor (mostly this is just an excuse to hang out and throw some bones as he makes Decipher Script checks).  Unfortunately, his roommate puts in NO time outside of game night.  Rarely does he respond to my emails (be they group emails or character specific) or phone calls.  He comes, he plays, he goes home. This wouldn't be a problem except that the plot is very much decided by the characters, two of which have serious trust issues, meaning there is NO room for anyone just along for the ride. Solution wise, I'd love to get him more involved in the game, but that's just not happening.  Barring that, I'd rather dump him altogether, because when it comes to dealing with him (or not as the case is), I get so miffed I'd rather not play at all.....  The trouble is, anytime I confront him about any of it, my friend defends him like he would his baby.  When I do get the offending player alone, he's mature about it, but recounts everything that goes on to my friend, who then gives me an earful about singling him out.  Woeful is the day that I deal with them together.  Despite it all, I'd rather not have my friend stop playing just because I asked his roommate to stop playing, but I think that will be the case. Any suggestions on how to - A)get the less than dedicated player motivated to game or B)boot him without losing his roommate/my friend?  I'm thinking my next step is to ask my friend to talk to him about putting some time into his character AND responding to me outside of the game.  Put it in his hands type of thing.  *shrug*</blockquote>

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