Talking To People Is Hard

[Dannyalcatraz]

I did that and got in trouble at school.

Wrong stuff for the context.

 

[Ralif Redhammer]

I’m a damn good singer, a former cellist, and- when I’ve been practicing- a decent guitarist.

Have I mentioned I’m an introvert? Very few people know how musically skilled I am. Those talents have utterly failed in drawing me out of my comfort zone.

Getting up on stage in front of a bunch of strangers (and some friends) was absolutely not my comfort zone, that's for sure. Yet from the get-go, there was this feeling, this complete rush, that outpaced my shyness.

 

[Dannyalcatraz]

Getting up on stage in front of a bunch of strangers (and some friends) was absolutely not my comfort zone, that's for sure. Yet from the get-go, there was this feeling, this complete rush, that outpaced my shyness.

I pretty much hate every moment of it. I still TRY.

But it’s telling that if someone approaches me while playing, I’ll stop.

 

[Minion X]

No, it would actually be really weird and creepy. If one of my students was doing this I'd wonder what was wrong with them. And also, my son has ASD, so can we drop this ignorant line of discussion, please?

My lived experience and grades say otherwise, so I insist on having the final word.

 

[gnarlygninja]

You got graded on your eye contact?

 

[Ralif Redhammer]

I pretty much hate every moment of it. I still TRY.

But it’s telling that if someone approaches me while playing, I’ll stop.

Getting up on stage isn't easy. If you're doing it right, it's a position of great vulnerability. People are all paying attention to you. Or worse, they are not paying attention to you!

I think there always was a part of me drawn to showmanship, that wants to entertain people. See also being a GM.

 

[Jeremy E Grenemyer]

Some tips from an old timer introvert

-it gets easier

• you will have to make first moves in social situations and they may not go great all the time
• if you f it up laugh it off after. Seriously don’t dwell
• bar talk. Take baby steps .

100% recommend this.

Back in 2010 I got so tired of being stuck at home with no social life that I went for broke and made a resolution to visit the neighborhood bar every day for one year.

Fast forward to now and my default is still wanting to be at home—but now it’s with the wife and kids (I met my future wife at the bar). But I can talk to anyone, anywhere, and it’s fun to chat with people at the local restaurants and to strike up a conversation.

There really is something to putting yourself out there and mixing it up. Slow and steady wins the race.

 

[Blue]

In some cases you should, though. Looking teachers intently in the eye and nodding when appropriate gives them the impression that you are deeply interested in their subject.

Sure, but if you need the breakdown for "looking someone in the eye" isn't a literal saying, let's go with the base case before judgement calls.

 

[trappedslider]

so, I don't know if it's because I have a crush on the person or if it's just me being normal nervous when talking to people but I have a hard time talking to the property manager of the apartment complex i live in. I've asked her out for a "get to know you outside of your job" coffee/bite to eat. I could barely ask her about her day and her weekend plans, not sure if part of the issue was also other people being there or not.

 

[Zardnaar]

100% recommend this.

Back in 2010 I got so tired of being stuck at home with no social life that I went for broke and made a resolution to visit the neighborhood bar every day for one year.

Fast forward to now and my default is still wanting to be at home—but now it’s with the wife and kids (I met my future wife at the bar). But I can talk to anyone, anywhere, and it’s fun to chat with people at the local restaurants and to strike up a conversation.

There really is something to putting yourself out there and mixing it up. Slow and steady wins the race.

Lies!! The internet told me it's impossible to meet people leaving the house!!!!!!!@