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I don't know for sure, but I think its the image of a confident, tall, strong looking white guy. AKA stereotypical ideals of western masculinity. I don't get that kind of reaction on the internet, only in person or by video, so I think it's the way I look.

I think that is wise. It's not a good idea to put yourself in danger to try and change someone else's mind. It is better to protect yourself. One of the reasons I engage in discussions with bigoted people and try to get them to see the error of that thinking is because I can do that safely...

Well FabPob, to do it you have to get to know people. Spend some time with them. Engage in an extended dialogue. I've made a few invitations to people here to contact me, get to know me, have a conversation. So far, no one has taken the time to do it. If you want to, you can too...

I did answer that question. The answer was: I think it was truly an honest mistake. I added that I can't know for certainty, but that is what I think. To truly know, I would need to read the man's mind, and I can't. Were I a psychologist I could have a more informed opinion, but I'm not. I'm...

I am. I've worked there for more than two years. It gives me a much more intimate perspective from which to view events. I know the details, I know the individuals involved. I know many of the events discussed because I was actually there. Look, if you expect a person who has fist hand...

The same for me. If its in my home, or a friends, I'm not inviting anyone I know who's openly a bigot (and I don't know of anyone I know who is). But I'm discussing a public situation like a forum or a table at a convention. That's the frame I'm thinking in because that's what I thought the...

I agree. But I also think there is a difference between voting republican and being a KKK member or being a conservative and being a Nazi. I know you are using that to illustrate a principle, and I agree with the principle, but in practice not everyone you will encounter is the same. There are...

I'm not claiming to be her ally. She's the only person that can decide that, and she's decided I'm not. I accepted that judgement. I respect trans people, and I argue against bigotry, but I think being an ally is something a bit special that goes beyond mere respect and acceptance. I'd have to...

I'm fine to get a lecture or too, and as you might be able to tell, I like "arguing" especially when its civil and thoughtful. So all good there. Point taken, I'll try to be more explicit that I don't accept bigotry. Though again, in the case of Facebook, its not my group or the companies...

I was not proposing any experiments. I don't do experiments on people. I'm sorry you got that impression.

I agree all around on what you said in this post. There is never just one approach to things, and my technique, while validated, is far from the only way to try and change others behavior or thinking. And people absolutely change their behavior around others, which is why I cannot actually deny...

One thing I want to add. If you trust the content of Morrus's article, which I think you generally should, then you are also trusting much of my account of EGG. While Morrus kept all the sources but Dave anonymous, I provided a lengthy statement to Morrus, a many aspects of which he included...

Until Morrus objects, I'm happy to agree to whatever topic. I just wanted to highlight we had a different sense of what the core subject was. In my life (I'm 52 when writing this) I've had successes. I've had friends that have turned away from homophobia partly based on my discussions with...

I didn't think of it as an exception so much as an explanation. Thanks. I think we see the subject a bit differently. (Of course, neither of us are really the judge of what it is.) I was trying to answer questions about a specific incident on Facebook where fans of our game were using...

PS: Props for civil and engaging dialog Faolyn. While we don't necessarily agree on everything, you seem like a good person who asks honest questions. We have some misunderstandings, but you are willing to work through that, and I appreciate it.

If so, sorry, that happens sometimes. I can't be sure of what people mean unless they say what they mean. The issue in the Facebook thread was people using terms like "Libtard" and "wokewarrior" as pejoratives. I called that out as inappropriate and rude, but did not engage in an actual...

I disagree. We did have a fan who complained about the character sheets, ad nauseum in fact. I explained to him why they were there, that people like to have that and we respect those players. I invited him not to use it if he liked but we were absolutely not going to change it for him. He...

I have to ask, what is it with people complaining I say too much or use too many words? Is it somehow wrong, or disingenuous to speak at length on delicate and complex situations? Misunderstandings often come because people don't say enough or take the time to add context to their statements...

The fans saying this is a leftist hit job are wrong. I can not only say it, I agree with it. The issues at EGG were not political. Everyone on the staff is pretty much liberal in their politics (I don't know everyone's politics there, but anyone who spoke about them, did so with liberal...

I agree all around with this. I also think different approaches are right for different people (or companies). I'll say that in the group and posts in question (which are a tiny number of the posts overall in that group) the invectives were political ones (that I saw), not targeting peoples...