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In the current climate, it pays (or paints a target on your back) to ensure that you are not being lumped into (insert group here).

Yeah, I posted it before I had slogged through the all the updates since I had to go away for a few days of jury duty.

That is a giant crock of :):):):):):):):)! Are you seriously saying that men are unable to control their bodies and prevent sexual attacks? Study after study has concluded that sexual attacks rarely if ever have anything to do with being overcome with sexuality. Sex crimes are almost always...

I'd love to see a short quiz that tests whether or not they actually read the T&C prior to signing, but I fear that would be unwieldy Things that can easily happen: - Having the T&C's displayed prominently around the con. Even broken down into smaller pieces so they are easier to be taken in...

Looking at the example from entertainment. The acceptance of the behavior displayed in TV and movies has changed over the years. Just look at Bugs Bunny if you need examples. "Many cartoons from previous decades are routinely edited on international television (and on some video and DVD...

So we're still talking about eliminating harassment in the context of the RPG hobby space right?

In general women are very willing to give individual men several chances to get it right so long as they are trying to move in a positive direction. Personally, I'll excuse any first offense that is done without malice (doing something on purpose to push buttons is not without malice in my...

Le me try to put the dots close together. Afrodyte has stated previously that if @Morrus feels that what she is doing should stop, then upon being notified of his choice as the moderator, Then she will respect his request as the moderator. At that time she would discontinue her attempt to...

The bolded... This type of statement implies that if something negative were to happen, the cosplayer instigated the approach with the magnetic power of their boobs.

For the record, what I believe you are referring to as "willingness to live with discomfort" is personal discomfort. Women live with this state practically 100% of the time we move outside our homes, play online games, or engage in a hot button topic on the internet. I'm not kidding; even in...

If I haven't ticked someone off before, here's where I'm going to do it. If you aren't an active part of the solution, then you are part of the problem (silence/ignoring in almost every case is assumed to be consent/approval/condoning the behaviors that are labelled as wrong). You can't assume...

Honestly? Self-policing through positive peer pressure is one of the most impactful things that can be done. Having people who share the same or higher level of power/privilege point out poor behavior as it happens is a way to exert positive peer pressure. Saying something right after you...

When choosing who I interact with, constant microaggressions are a something I view as a red flag. They may not meet a medical standard, but since I have to be aware of my surroundings in order to protect myself, I am not able to always let things get to the level of meeting a "standard" before...

As others have said, I posted a bunch of red flag behaviors that were meant to cause self-reflection on the part of anyone reading them. Guess what self-reflection isn't always easy, but it can lead to reevaluating your future choices, growth, and in extreme cases empathy. Hell, I'm guilty of...

To any male reading this thread: Before you say that you've never harassed someone in your life, please consider these questions and note that this is not an exhaustive list: Have you ever told a rape joke? Have you ever repeated a rape joke? Have you ever catcalled anyone? Have you ever told...

Yes, and consequences... I've even edited the previous post to add consequences.

This isn't a simple problem and it isn't going to be a simple solution. I'm not saying woke men will save us, I said woke men can be allies and help to point out harassment in the moment without being called a cock tease, bitch, or worse. If you look at the history of how social change...

You are correct that a system is made of individuals. I'm saying let's educate as much as possible and give people (men) the chance to grow beyond their current state. A woke man who learns how his unconscious privilege has in the PAST harmed others can be a powerful ally to those he previously...

So why do you say no that won't work? Why not "yes and " instead of "yes, but what I really mean is no"? If people alter their behavior to avoid negative consequences, then they will alter to not be caught and the underlying issues remain. Build accountability (consequence) in to the system...

Harrassment is a systemic issue, so getting rid of it needs a systemic solution. If we rely on punishing individuals who harass to solve this issue, then we never deal with the underlying cause of harrassment. Changing the way we socialize boys to know that women NEVER owe them sex. That a...