A letter in Dragon Magazine

I haven't read the other thread, so if I repeat something, feel free to harrass me about it. ;)

Frankly, as a female gamer, I have been treated differently. I'm not saying everyone does it, but it does happen a large percentage of the time. A few highlights:

1.) In one gaming group I was in, I played one of three female characters in the group. I was, however, the only female player in the group at the time, and for about 1/2 the group, the only female they'd ever gamed with. My character had a Cha of 10, and I described her as very plain (more descriptive than that, but that’s what it boils down to). One of the other female PCs had a Cha of 18. I’ll mention that this was a 2nd edition D&D game using Player’s Option books just to heighten the difference between 18 (close to the highest you could ever get) and 10.

My character was hit on. Constantly. By NPCs, the male PCs, and one of the female PCs whom had apparently just realized she was a lesbian (not the 18 Cha PC). You’re going to have to talk fast to tell me it wasn’t because of metagaming on the behalf of the other (all male) players and DM.

2.) The FLGS in my own (admittedly small and somewhat redneck) hometown was owned by someone I’ll refer to as S. S always gave me dirty looks when I walked in, and was rude whenever I was there – even when I was purchasing something (which, except for three tournament games, was all the time). On the other hand, I witnessed him being perfectly happy and polite to everyone else – as long as they were male. I do have to make the disclaimer that I only every saw one other girl in the store; she also bought gaming items and suffered the same rudeness I did. I eventually stopped going to that store and drove 45 minutes to get to another one.

3.) I’ve been told that I “can’t game, you’re a woman” with one of the most rude tones I’ve ever heard.

There's more, but I don't feel like typing everything up at the moment, and y'all probably don't feel like reading them anyway.

It’s actually gotten better since the advent of D&D 3rd edition, as gaming in general has been moving into the mainstream – and I think many female gamers are ‘coming out of the closet’ so to speak about their hobby. ;)
 

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I never noticed women being treated differently thats why created the thread. I wanted to see if it happened.

I'm seeing the response to "girls in gaming" threads I guess I can see where their coming from.
 


Aeson said:
I never noticed women being treated differently thats why created the thread. I wanted to see if it happened.

I'm seeing the response to "girls in gaming" threads I guess I can see where their coming from.

I have noticed in my one gaming group that us girls are treated a little different by some of the male players.

For example no matter what style character we play we are never allowed to be the face of the group. I gurantee one of us could play a paladin with tons of charisma but the half orc barbarian would end up being the face. :]

In other groups I have not seen this. I have noticed the younger the players the less likely is this to be a problem.
 


I was once in a gaming group consisting of mostly women. 6 or 7 people.

The game was odd, because sex and having children seemed to be a big part of their game. With the guys I gamed with before we NEVER had characters with children.
 

reveal said:
But it's true. She came on here and said "I'm a gamer girl; aren't I pretty? Oh, did I mention I gamed?!" and that was really all she ever added. It might not be a perfect phrase, but it did fit this one woman pretty well. Heck, she hasn't been back since.

She'd go under being a troll.

On-topic: Men should treat women with respect in all situations just as women should treat men with respect in all situations. And that's all I have to say about that.

I agree. It should be an equal partnership in alot of things. No "I'm better than you!" or "If you don't do 'X', then you won't get any tonight!" sort of crap. That's lame and totally unnecessary. Not to mention a quick way to end a relationship.
 

Darth K'Trava said:
I agree. It should be an equal partnership in alot of things. No "I'm better than you!" or "If you don't do 'X', then you won't get any tonight!" sort of crap. That's lame and totally unnecessary. Not to mention a quick way to end a relationship.

Pffft. What do chicks know? ;)
 



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