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<blockquote data-quote="haakon1" data-source="post: 5059065" data-attributes="member: 25619"><p>I think there are broader lessons here.</p><p>-- You wanted to min-max a customized build to be stronger in the campaign. He wanted you to play more or less RAW. Instead of <em>just telling you</em> to make a balanced RAW character, so you knew what sort of campaign it was and could decide to take it or leave it, he <em>negotiated</em> with you, which unsurprisingly led to a hostile and disrespectful attitude between the two of you. In my view, he should have had the confidence to just lay down the law and act as referee, instead of as opposing council.</p><p>Edit: Of course, from the second post, it turns out he was just a sadistic jerk and your character was irrelevant to his game of mutilation and unlawful imprisonment, but my comments would apply between normal people. BTW, definitely don't hang out with this psycho in real life!</p><p></p><p>-- He switched the campaign concept/location from what you expected. This can be fine with some players (I've certainly enjoyed getting shaken up into the completely unexpected on occasion, it's supposed to be an ADVENTURE game after all), it's not fine for you.</p><p>Edit: From the second post, it seems like there wasn't any adventure to it at all . . . </p><p></p><p>-- He laughed at you when you complained. There's really no excuse for rudeness from anyone. But I think a DM should have a higher standard -- they should think of themselves as a teacher or judge, and have some decorum from behind the screen, IMHO.</p><p>Edit: This one stands, and it should have been a clue to both you as the player and me as the reader that there was something wrong with this DM, but alas, you had to ride the trainwreck to its sorry end . . .</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="haakon1, post: 5059065, member: 25619"] I think there are broader lessons here. -- You wanted to min-max a customized build to be stronger in the campaign. He wanted you to play more or less RAW. Instead of [I]just telling you[/I] to make a balanced RAW character, so you knew what sort of campaign it was and could decide to take it or leave it, he [I]negotiated[/I] with you, which unsurprisingly led to a hostile and disrespectful attitude between the two of you. In my view, he should have had the confidence to just lay down the law and act as referee, instead of as opposing council. Edit: Of course, from the second post, it turns out he was just a sadistic jerk and your character was irrelevant to his game of mutilation and unlawful imprisonment, but my comments would apply between normal people. BTW, definitely don't hang out with this psycho in real life! -- He switched the campaign concept/location from what you expected. This can be fine with some players (I've certainly enjoyed getting shaken up into the completely unexpected on occasion, it's supposed to be an ADVENTURE game after all), it's not fine for you. Edit: From the second post, it seems like there wasn't any adventure to it at all . . . -- He laughed at you when you complained. There's really no excuse for rudeness from anyone. But I think a DM should have a higher standard -- they should think of themselves as a teacher or judge, and have some decorum from behind the screen, IMHO. Edit: This one stands, and it should have been a clue to both you as the player and me as the reader that there was something wrong with this DM, but alas, you had to ride the trainwreck to its sorry end . . . [/QUOTE]
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