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<blockquote data-quote="Oryan77" data-source="post: 2173131" data-attributes="member: 18701"><p>I had words with 2 of my players a month ago about this same topic. They are new to my table & we've realized our gaming styles are different. They got upset with me for ingame things and I got upset with them for taking it out of game. Same stuff you mentioned.</p><p></p><p>This is the first time I've ever dealt with players thinking I'm being hard on them as a DM because I'm mad that they killed some NPC's of mine. I was never mad, they are SUPPOSED to kill my npc's or do whatever they want. I might be bummed out if I built a great NPC and they took him out before I expected, but why would I care enough that I'd punish them or be harder on them later on in game? After our talk, they let me know that their previous DM did that type of stuff, so that's what they expect is going on from me. It was bad timing too when I realized this. They killed an NPC of mine that I didn't expect them to kill, then I roleplayed another NPC yelling at them for killing the other NPC. During my performance with the NPC, I actually called a PC names & insulted her. The player took it personal, thinking I was mad because they killed my NPC. We talked about it a few days later when I realized that was the case.</p><p></p><p>They also play in the player vs DM style instead of PC vs NPC style. I'm not used to that either. I told them I'd just play chess instead of D&D if that's how I wanted to play. I warned them that they won't enjoy my game if they play vs the DM because it'll seem cheesy, like I'm not good tactically...when really it's the NPC that wasn't good tactically.</p><p></p><p>This game is all about trust. And most DM's seem to be arrogant morons that let being in charge go to their heads. I'm just trying to get my new players to trust me, because I put my trust in them thinking they'll be fair with me too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Oryan77, post: 2173131, member: 18701"] I had words with 2 of my players a month ago about this same topic. They are new to my table & we've realized our gaming styles are different. They got upset with me for ingame things and I got upset with them for taking it out of game. Same stuff you mentioned. This is the first time I've ever dealt with players thinking I'm being hard on them as a DM because I'm mad that they killed some NPC's of mine. I was never mad, they are SUPPOSED to kill my npc's or do whatever they want. I might be bummed out if I built a great NPC and they took him out before I expected, but why would I care enough that I'd punish them or be harder on them later on in game? After our talk, they let me know that their previous DM did that type of stuff, so that's what they expect is going on from me. It was bad timing too when I realized this. They killed an NPC of mine that I didn't expect them to kill, then I roleplayed another NPC yelling at them for killing the other NPC. During my performance with the NPC, I actually called a PC names & insulted her. The player took it personal, thinking I was mad because they killed my NPC. We talked about it a few days later when I realized that was the case. They also play in the player vs DM style instead of PC vs NPC style. I'm not used to that either. I told them I'd just play chess instead of D&D if that's how I wanted to play. I warned them that they won't enjoy my game if they play vs the DM because it'll seem cheesy, like I'm not good tactically...when really it's the NPC that wasn't good tactically. This game is all about trust. And most DM's seem to be arrogant morons that let being in charge go to their heads. I'm just trying to get my new players to trust me, because I put my trust in them thinking they'll be fair with me too. [/QUOTE]
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