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<blockquote data-quote="Hussar" data-source="post: 9145531" data-attributes="member: 22779"><p>This. A thousand times this.</p><p></p><p>And it's going to depend so much on so many things. If you're running a game in an FLGS during the school year and everyone's going off during the summer holidays and it's very likely that you won't be playing with these people again (or, maybe you're running a game for a couple of months over the summer holidays) or some other sort of short(ish) term group, then, well, you can put up with a lot. </p><p></p><p>OTOH, if you're playing with the same group of people year after year, and, again, for a bajillion different reasons, none of which have anything to do with anyone being at fault, you find yourself in the position that [USER=7026617]@Thomas Shey[/USER] was, or I myself was for that matter a couple of years ago, it's just far, far healthier to take a step away. And it's hard. It's really hard to say to someone, "I'm sorry, but, I don't like playing games with you." It's hard to do that and not sound like a dick. When I recently stopped DMing for my last group, I handled it spectacularly poorly. Just said and did every single thing wrong.</p><p></p><p>It's far better to just be honest and up front with the group earlier than trying to sort of "grit your teeth and bear it". It won't ever get better. It will only get worse. </p><p></p><p>I really wish there was good advice on how to walk away from a group. I certainly haven't found it. Like [USER=7026617]@Thomas Shey[/USER], I found the game more stressful than fun. And every week it got worse and worse until I snapped, and said some stuff that in hindsight I wish I hadn't and left that group very badly. Very unfortunate. </p><p></p><p>I do agree with [USER=17927]@Charles Dunwoody[/USER] that this sort of advice would be really useful. Again, how do you say, "Hey, umm, I don't like gaming with you anymore" without sounding like a dick?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hussar, post: 9145531, member: 22779"] This. A thousand times this. And it's going to depend so much on so many things. If you're running a game in an FLGS during the school year and everyone's going off during the summer holidays and it's very likely that you won't be playing with these people again (or, maybe you're running a game for a couple of months over the summer holidays) or some other sort of short(ish) term group, then, well, you can put up with a lot. OTOH, if you're playing with the same group of people year after year, and, again, for a bajillion different reasons, none of which have anything to do with anyone being at fault, you find yourself in the position that [USER=7026617]@Thomas Shey[/USER] was, or I myself was for that matter a couple of years ago, it's just far, far healthier to take a step away. And it's hard. It's really hard to say to someone, "I'm sorry, but, I don't like playing games with you." It's hard to do that and not sound like a dick. When I recently stopped DMing for my last group, I handled it spectacularly poorly. Just said and did every single thing wrong. It's far better to just be honest and up front with the group earlier than trying to sort of "grit your teeth and bear it". It won't ever get better. It will only get worse. I really wish there was good advice on how to walk away from a group. I certainly haven't found it. Like [USER=7026617]@Thomas Shey[/USER], I found the game more stressful than fun. And every week it got worse and worse until I snapped, and said some stuff that in hindsight I wish I hadn't and left that group very badly. Very unfortunate. I do agree with [USER=17927]@Charles Dunwoody[/USER] that this sort of advice would be really useful. Again, how do you say, "Hey, umm, I don't like gaming with you anymore" without sounding like a dick? [/QUOTE]
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