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<blockquote data-quote="nnms" data-source="post: 5948972" data-attributes="member: 83293"><p>I don't see how you could not. If someone likes X and you say X is harmful, you've done so. And people will get their backs up and friendly disagreement turns into alienation.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I'm trying to let you know why people you are talking about are reacting to you the way they are.</p><p></p><p>They are perceiving your objections as moralizing. Even if they are not.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I'm sure the cases where you've spoken up and the rest of the table suddenly felt their comfort and enjoyment was detracted from didn't give you the warmest reception for the rest of the session.</p><p></p><p>What I do know is that if you are in a group and the rest of the people like something and you claim it's harmful or that it gives you emotional distress, what you are communicating to the other people is that their liking it is somehow wrong or inappropriate. They are going to close ranks and place the moral critic on the outside.</p><p></p><p>You described suddenly feeling alienated and whatnot.</p><p></p><p>That's why.</p><p></p><p>As I said before, people don't do their hobbies to be judged. You don't like it when you or your characters are judged a certain way. So why would you expect anyone to like it when you turn the judgement around on them by making statements that intimate that there is something wrong with how they are doing things or what they like?</p><p></p><p>Are you in the right? Sure. Do group dynamics care about that? Nope.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nnms, post: 5948972, member: 83293"] I don't see how you could not. If someone likes X and you say X is harmful, you've done so. And people will get their backs up and friendly disagreement turns into alienation. I'm trying to let you know why people you are talking about are reacting to you the way they are. They are perceiving your objections as moralizing. Even if they are not. I'm sure the cases where you've spoken up and the rest of the table suddenly felt their comfort and enjoyment was detracted from didn't give you the warmest reception for the rest of the session. What I do know is that if you are in a group and the rest of the people like something and you claim it's harmful or that it gives you emotional distress, what you are communicating to the other people is that their liking it is somehow wrong or inappropriate. They are going to close ranks and place the moral critic on the outside. You described suddenly feeling alienated and whatnot. That's why. As I said before, people don't do their hobbies to be judged. You don't like it when you or your characters are judged a certain way. So why would you expect anyone to like it when you turn the judgement around on them by making statements that intimate that there is something wrong with how they are doing things or what they like? Are you in the right? Sure. Do group dynamics care about that? Nope. [/QUOTE]
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