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<blockquote data-quote="Thornir Alekeg" data-source="post: 2893708" data-attributes="member: 15651"><p>People have written some good advice and sympathy here. I'll offer up someting a bit different: It seems many of your problems lie in looking back at things and comparing yourself to others. As others have said, very normal things. </p><p></p><p>One thing I learned to help break myself from that cycle was to instead look forward. Set some goals for yourself, some near term, some long term and maybe even a far-reaching dream. The goals should be realistic and achievable - the sooner they are the the more realistic they should be. Then start making some plans to achieve those goals. </p><p></p><p>Some goal ideas:</p><p>You complain about your debt - find a way to take $10 per week (or whatever the price of a delivered pizza is, by some parts of your e-mail I assume you are outside the US) and save it. End of the year you have $520 in savings.</p><p></p><p>If you can swing it, find another $10 per week (or when you can) to put aside - earmark that money for use at the end of the year to get yourself something fun.</p><p></p><p>At your job - choose an aspect of what a Systems Engineer should be able to do that you are not very strong in. Learn all you can about that part of the job - books from the library, mentor at work, whatever you can. After you have a few years experience, nobody will care what your grades were in school or that you are a few years older than people with comparable skill. Job experience and competence is worth more then a degree with top honors.</p><p></p><p>I know you just graduated, but after you have had some time off, if your employer offers tuition reimbursement, take a single class in something to either improve your job skills or begin developing something new.</p><p></p><p>Get a resume written. The job you are in now sounds like they are working you hard - have a resume together so if you feel they have pushed too far, you don't have an easy excuse to avoid looking for something better.</p><p></p><p>Plan to ask for a raise. Did the switch to a Systems Engineer come with a raise? If not, plan to do the job for a set time frame (6 months or a year?) and then show them how you have been able to do the more demanding job successfully and ask them to compensate you for it. </p><p></p><p>Longer term goals can be a new car, advanced degree, maybe a house.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p><p></p><p>Edit: another thought - sounds like you may be working some odd hours. If they change a lot, and sleep seems to be an issue, maybe send a message to Piratecat. I know he does some kind of work around planning shift schedules and sleep patterns - he might be able to either offer some practical advice or direct you to resources to help you. Poor sleep can itself lead to physical stress, which can then affect sleep futher (and emotional state) in a terrible feedback loop.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Thornir Alekeg, post: 2893708, member: 15651"] People have written some good advice and sympathy here. I'll offer up someting a bit different: It seems many of your problems lie in looking back at things and comparing yourself to others. As others have said, very normal things. One thing I learned to help break myself from that cycle was to instead look forward. Set some goals for yourself, some near term, some long term and maybe even a far-reaching dream. The goals should be realistic and achievable - the sooner they are the the more realistic they should be. Then start making some plans to achieve those goals. Some goal ideas: You complain about your debt - find a way to take $10 per week (or whatever the price of a delivered pizza is, by some parts of your e-mail I assume you are outside the US) and save it. End of the year you have $520 in savings. If you can swing it, find another $10 per week (or when you can) to put aside - earmark that money for use at the end of the year to get yourself something fun. At your job - choose an aspect of what a Systems Engineer should be able to do that you are not very strong in. Learn all you can about that part of the job - books from the library, mentor at work, whatever you can. After you have a few years experience, nobody will care what your grades were in school or that you are a few years older than people with comparable skill. Job experience and competence is worth more then a degree with top honors. I know you just graduated, but after you have had some time off, if your employer offers tuition reimbursement, take a single class in something to either improve your job skills or begin developing something new. Get a resume written. The job you are in now sounds like they are working you hard - have a resume together so if you feel they have pushed too far, you don't have an easy excuse to avoid looking for something better. Plan to ask for a raise. Did the switch to a Systems Engineer come with a raise? If not, plan to do the job for a set time frame (6 months or a year?) and then show them how you have been able to do the more demanding job successfully and ask them to compensate you for it. Longer term goals can be a new car, advanced degree, maybe a house. Good luck. Edit: another thought - sounds like you may be working some odd hours. If they change a lot, and sleep seems to be an issue, maybe send a message to Piratecat. I know he does some kind of work around planning shift schedules and sleep patterns - he might be able to either offer some practical advice or direct you to resources to help you. Poor sleep can itself lead to physical stress, which can then affect sleep futher (and emotional state) in a terrible feedback loop. [/QUOTE]
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