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The Stigma of D&D OR Help! I'm Stuck in the D&D Closet?
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<blockquote data-quote="Toben the Many" data-source="post: 1656991" data-attributes="member: 19273"><p>Most people seem to be saying: "Hey, the game only stigmatizes you if you let it." Which is great, I think. A very healthy approach.</p><p></p><p>The reality of it is that I think that the game <em>does</em> carry some amount of stigma with it, depending on whom you associate with. Some people think it's weird. Some people could care less. </p><p></p><p>In my line of work, I know that I wouldn't have gotten hired if my bosses knew I played D&D. Yes, I'm being serious. And by the way, I love my job and I love my bosses. No, I don't think they're shallow people. </p><p></p><p>But what I want to add to this conversation is something entirely different. Sniffing out someone who's an in-the-closet gamer. Amusingly enough, it's almost like trying to figure out if someone's gay.</p><p></p><p>Here's a key example: </p><p>Two years ago, I had just moved into a new town, and I didn't know a soul. So, I was looking for gaming buddies. I was at a conference for my new job, and I was talking to this guy next to me. The speaker started to wander -far- off topic, so the guy jokingly said: "Stay on target...stay on target..." Totally quoting Star Wars: A New Hope.</p><p></p><p>Right away, we make that "sci-fi" connection. We start trading Star Wars quips back and forth. Eventually, he makes a crack about Conan. I laugh and he makes another crack about needing a bastard sword. </p><p></p><p>A light pops over my head. "Bastard sword." He didn't call it a hand-and-a-half sword. He didn't call it a claymore. Hrm. So I mention that I could get him one if he could prove that he could use it <em>one handed</em>.</p><p></p><p>He said, "Oh, I'd need to be really proficient with a bastard sword to do that."</p><p></p><p>Next thing you know, we're trading the D&D stories. </p><p></p><p>Call me crazy, but scenarios like this have happened to me constantly - where I figure out someone's a gamer or not. Sometimes, you can even <em>spot</em> a gamer across the room. They just set off that "game-radar."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Toben the Many, post: 1656991, member: 19273"] Most people seem to be saying: "Hey, the game only stigmatizes you if you let it." Which is great, I think. A very healthy approach. The reality of it is that I think that the game [i]does[/i] carry some amount of stigma with it, depending on whom you associate with. Some people think it's weird. Some people could care less. In my line of work, I know that I wouldn't have gotten hired if my bosses knew I played D&D. Yes, I'm being serious. And by the way, I love my job and I love my bosses. No, I don't think they're shallow people. But what I want to add to this conversation is something entirely different. Sniffing out someone who's an in-the-closet gamer. Amusingly enough, it's almost like trying to figure out if someone's gay. Here's a key example: Two years ago, I had just moved into a new town, and I didn't know a soul. So, I was looking for gaming buddies. I was at a conference for my new job, and I was talking to this guy next to me. The speaker started to wander -far- off topic, so the guy jokingly said: "Stay on target...stay on target..." Totally quoting Star Wars: A New Hope. Right away, we make that "sci-fi" connection. We start trading Star Wars quips back and forth. Eventually, he makes a crack about Conan. I laugh and he makes another crack about needing a bastard sword. A light pops over my head. "Bastard sword." He didn't call it a hand-and-a-half sword. He didn't call it a claymore. Hrm. So I mention that I could get him one if he could prove that he could use it [i]one handed[/i]. He said, "Oh, I'd need to be really proficient with a bastard sword to do that." Next thing you know, we're trading the D&D stories. Call me crazy, but scenarios like this have happened to me constantly - where I figure out someone's a gamer or not. Sometimes, you can even [i]spot[/i] a gamer across the room. They just set off that "game-radar." [/QUOTE]
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