The Ethics of Two Way Ignore

[FrogReaver]

I believe it to be obvious and self-evident, but I don't really have the bandwidth to get into a debate about it. Sorry.

I respect that.

 

[Deset Gled]

I believe most blocks occur because two people start butting heads and escalate it from there. The one that gets tired of it first blocks the other.

I can tell you that is not how I use the ignore feature most of the time. Some of the people on my list I have had relatively few interactions with. Sometimes none. AFAIK, I'm only being ignored by one person right now, and I'm pretty sure it's a person I've never directly interacted with (admittedly, it's hard to check now).

I obviously don't have you on ignore, but I think it's safe to assume that if your number is getting high, a lot of that is people who are watching your posts and deciding they just don't want to interact with you in the future. People don't need to talk with you directly to know that. The people you're butting heads with are the ones who choose not to put you on ignore.

 

[FrogReaver]

I can tell you that is not how I use the ignore feature most of the time. Some of the people on my list I have had relatively few interactions with. Sometimes none. AFAIK, I'm only being ignored by one person right now, and I'm pretty sure it's a person I've never directly interacted with (admittedly, it's hard to check now).

I obviously don't have you on ignore, but I think it's safe to assume that if your number is getting high, a lot of that is people who are watching your posts and deciding they just don't want to interact with you in the future. People don't need to talk with you directly to know that. The people you're butting heads with are the ones who choose not to put you on ignore.

Maybe. One question. Why don’t you have me ignored/blocked?

 

[Old Fezziwig]

I can tell you that is not how I use the ignore feature most of the time. Some of the people on my list I have had relatively few interactions with. Sometimes none.

This is in line with my use. Almost all of the people on my "permanent" ignore list are there because of things they said to other posters or in conversations I wasn't involved in. Sometimes people say things, and I'm like "this poster is not my type of poster."

I don't put people I've butted heads with on ignore for more than a day or two, and I only do that so I can take inventory of my own behavior and feelings. (I'm putting myself in time out rather than them. I mostly don't want to be argumentative on the Internet.)

 

[FrogReaver]

This is in line with my use. Almost all of the people on my "permanent" ignore list are there because of things they said to other posters or in conversations I wasn't involved in. Sometimes people say things, and I'm like "this poster is not my type of poster."

I don't put people I've butted heads with on ignore for more than a day or two, and I only do that so I can take inventory of my own behavior and feelings. (I'm putting myself in time out rather than them.)

Interesting. There probably is a bit of selection bias on my side then. The ones I’m not interacting with currently I’m less likely to realize have blocked me. Where the ones blocking me in the moment I notice instantly. Interesting.

 

[Old Fezziwig]

Interesting. There probably is a bit of selection bias on my side then. The ones I’m not interacting with currently I’m less likely to realize have blocked me. Where the ones blocking me in the moment I notice instantly. Interesting.

I can also say that, in line with my purposes in using ignore, I don't use two-way ignore. It's enough for me not to see the other poster.

 

[CleverNickName]

Speaking only for myself? I don't want people I've blocked to know that I've blocked them, or when I did it. I want them to think I vanished from the site, never to be seen again, without so much as a wave goodbye. (It takes a LOT to get me to block someone.) This is true across all social media, from Reddit to FaceBook to ENWorld.

If that ever changes--if I ever want someone to know that I've blocked them--I can send them a DM first.

 

[Cap'n Kobold]

Ah. Is that why I'm getting notifications telling me that people quoted a post of mine, but can't find the thread that its happening in?

I didn't realise that this was a thing.

 

[Deset Gled]

Ah. Is that why I'm getting notifications telling me that people quoted a post of mine, but can't find the thread that its happening in?

I didn't realise that this was a thing.

Yes, the board behavior changed recently to not let you into threads if the OP has you ignored. It was discussed more in detail in this other thread: Thread Not Found (Unless I Log Out)

Seems like it was an unintended change for ENWorld, but not one that is easy to fix.

 

[CleverNickName]

With 18(!) warnings (how are you still here?!) and 54 people blocking you, guess how far up what you’re ’looking for’ is on my list of priorities?

I literally did a spit-take when I read that, and had to wipe coffee off of my monitor.