Majoru Oakheart
Adventurer
This is an off topic thread I decided to start here as an offshoot of the girl gamers thread.
I could probably go on a diet, do huge amounts of exercise and try to slim down while switching to more stylish clothes and try to go out and do less geeky things. Then again, if I did, I wouldn't be me anymore.
Yes, I have to deal with the consequences. This means a lot of people will write me off just by seeing me. That is their loss. But to make it sound like I have a psychological problem because I happen to look like this makes it sound like there is "normal" and everyone who doesn't try to fit into it is wrong.
Also, I've spent days at home when I wasn't going out or having anyone over without having a shower. I've also run into situations where I've been out, gone directly to work, then after work gone directly to a game in order to be on time. I seem to lack the ability to "feel" dirty as I hear a lot of other people do. Don't get me wrong, I have showers, I get clean and I really enjoy showers. It's just that the real reason I have them is for other people rather than for myself. I've been in a room filled with gamers, a decent number of which I knew had been awake for almost 48 hours without really even leaving the gaming room and I couldn't even smell them at all. I knew they didn't have showers during this time. Apparently I lack the ability to smell at all. Except most of the time I can't stand the smell of all the strong perfumes, aftershaves, and deoderants people wear.
The reason I bring this up is because without fail I hear the stereotypes of gamers being all a bunch of overweight, likely balding, geek slogan t-shirt wearing, stinky, socially inept losers. And, a lot of those stereotypes describe ME perfectly. Except, I don't believe I'm socially inept, nor do I believe I'm stinky.
I don't like very many non-geeky things. I don't like any sports at all, can't stand watching them or playing most of them. I can't stand discussions on the stock market, financial planning, make up, shopping, fashion. I hate drugs, drinking, smoking, and bars. I can't stand doing any of them or being around people who do them.
So, I see people acting like idiots, getting drunk out of their mind, treating women like crap, killing themselves and other with drugs and alcohol. If I voice my opinion on any of these things, however, I am treated like an outcast for not accepting the things that everyone else does. However, the opinion I tend to get from everyone I meet is that since I play D&D, live with my parents, am in my mid 20s and it might have been 24 hours since I last took a shower that I'm horribly mal-adjusted. That I'm purposefully trying not to fit into society and that if I only changed who I was, people would like me better.
As a continuation from another point about the previous thread. Even If I'm purposefully dressing up, showered an hour before leaving, and am TRYING to fit in with "normal" people, one mention of playing RPGs or D&D is enough for normal people to ignore me and treat me like I'm less than human.
Sorry for the rant, but I really have to get this off my chest. I know that I'm going to be called every name in the book and I should never be this honest in a post ever. But, hey, I gotta be me. Do your worst, I suppose.
edit: for spelling and clarification
Since I pretty much qualify as this (mid 20s, overweight, wears sci-fi/geek t-shirts). I'd say I look like this because...well, I'm overweight and I like sci-fi and geek slogans.Elf Witch said:When I see gamers who are in the mid 20s who fit the sterotype I have to wonder why. Is it a psychological problem that stops them from being able to fit into mainstream society or is that they don't want to. Is it a badge of honor they wear. Society didn't let them fit in when they were teen agers so why should they bother to try and fit in now, It is the principle that counts.
I could probably go on a diet, do huge amounts of exercise and try to slim down while switching to more stylish clothes and try to go out and do less geeky things. Then again, if I did, I wouldn't be me anymore.
Yes, I have to deal with the consequences. This means a lot of people will write me off just by seeing me. That is their loss. But to make it sound like I have a psychological problem because I happen to look like this makes it sound like there is "normal" and everyone who doesn't try to fit into it is wrong.
Also, I've spent days at home when I wasn't going out or having anyone over without having a shower. I've also run into situations where I've been out, gone directly to work, then after work gone directly to a game in order to be on time. I seem to lack the ability to "feel" dirty as I hear a lot of other people do. Don't get me wrong, I have showers, I get clean and I really enjoy showers. It's just that the real reason I have them is for other people rather than for myself. I've been in a room filled with gamers, a decent number of which I knew had been awake for almost 48 hours without really even leaving the gaming room and I couldn't even smell them at all. I knew they didn't have showers during this time. Apparently I lack the ability to smell at all. Except most of the time I can't stand the smell of all the strong perfumes, aftershaves, and deoderants people wear.
The reason I bring this up is because without fail I hear the stereotypes of gamers being all a bunch of overweight, likely balding, geek slogan t-shirt wearing, stinky, socially inept losers. And, a lot of those stereotypes describe ME perfectly. Except, I don't believe I'm socially inept, nor do I believe I'm stinky.
I don't like very many non-geeky things. I don't like any sports at all, can't stand watching them or playing most of them. I can't stand discussions on the stock market, financial planning, make up, shopping, fashion. I hate drugs, drinking, smoking, and bars. I can't stand doing any of them or being around people who do them.
So, I see people acting like idiots, getting drunk out of their mind, treating women like crap, killing themselves and other with drugs and alcohol. If I voice my opinion on any of these things, however, I am treated like an outcast for not accepting the things that everyone else does. However, the opinion I tend to get from everyone I meet is that since I play D&D, live with my parents, am in my mid 20s and it might have been 24 hours since I last took a shower that I'm horribly mal-adjusted. That I'm purposefully trying not to fit into society and that if I only changed who I was, people would like me better.
As a continuation from another point about the previous thread. Even If I'm purposefully dressing up, showered an hour before leaving, and am TRYING to fit in with "normal" people, one mention of playing RPGs or D&D is enough for normal people to ignore me and treat me like I'm less than human.
Sorry for the rant, but I really have to get this off my chest. I know that I'm going to be called every name in the book and I should never be this honest in a post ever. But, hey, I gotta be me. Do your worst, I suppose.
edit: for spelling and clarification
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