Bullgrit
Adventurer
A discussion in the Gay Rights thread brought up how some (many?) consider marriage a religious institution because it is often performed in a religious forum by a religious leader.
How about death and funerals?
My mother and step-father hadn't been a part of any church for as long as I can remember (decades), if ever. When my step-father died suddenly, (8? years ago), my mother had to arrange the funeral at the funeral home. Now, she was in a distraught state, as you can imagine. She needed someone to perform the eulogy, and that's usually a clergyman. She called a local church to ask if the pastor would do the duty. But he was not helpful, and asked why he would do that for someone not a member of his church.
Fortunately, one of my step-brothers contacted a pastor they personally knew nearby and got him to agree to the duty. And he did wonderfully.
I have never been to a funeral that was not a religious ceremony. The leader was a clergyman of some form, and the ceremony included biblical passages and hymns. Take out the casket, and any of them could have been a Sunday morning sermon.
Is death and are funerals a religious institution in the same way that many people consider marriage a religious institution?
If you are not a religious person, will your funeral be completely devoid of religious trappings? Have you, and should you, explain to your family that you want a non-religious funeral?
Bullgrit
How about death and funerals?
My mother and step-father hadn't been a part of any church for as long as I can remember (decades), if ever. When my step-father died suddenly, (8? years ago), my mother had to arrange the funeral at the funeral home. Now, she was in a distraught state, as you can imagine. She needed someone to perform the eulogy, and that's usually a clergyman. She called a local church to ask if the pastor would do the duty. But he was not helpful, and asked why he would do that for someone not a member of his church.
Fortunately, one of my step-brothers contacted a pastor they personally knew nearby and got him to agree to the duty. And he did wonderfully.
I have never been to a funeral that was not a religious ceremony. The leader was a clergyman of some form, and the ceremony included biblical passages and hymns. Take out the casket, and any of them could have been a Sunday morning sermon.
Is death and are funerals a religious institution in the same way that many people consider marriage a religious institution?
If you are not a religious person, will your funeral be completely devoid of religious trappings? Have you, and should you, explain to your family that you want a non-religious funeral?
Bullgrit
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