Phazonfish
B-Rank Agent
in my experience tossing around phrase like "At this point, I will allow a player..." does not do a lot to foster that trust.
I'm not sure what you mean here, given that the phrase is being tossed around on a forum, not as part of Charlaquin's game. Furthermore, trust goes both ways; some DMs might see players hijacking a process the DM is suppose to adjudicate as disrespectful, even if the player means nothing by it and it doesn't hurt anything. If the DM asks the player not to and they continue, there should be repercussions until they either fly right or decide that they'd rather not be part of the DM's game and, as far as repercussions go, failing a skill check is a slap on the wrist.
Of course I also feel like it would be rather petty for things to come to such a stage over something so trivial. In any case, I'm happy you don't have such a problem at your table, so have fun.