I want to play D&D with friends, not a wargame
Again, this would be reasons I don't like 4e. 4e seems to me to be the most minis centric edition since OD&D (if that), and has taken pains to shift the balance question entirely to combat. That's more like a wargame to me.
Most folk I have ever played with, want fun. Now, to some, fun is of course, uber detailed simulationism, as said if that's what ye like then fair dinkum, but it is not the reason most folk play D&D.
I think you are bashing strawmen here. Most people don't like "uber detailed simulationism". But that just happens to include, well, most people who like simulationism.
To my perception, people like simulationism at the game table like it because it helps remove obstacles to roleplaying and immersion. When things happen that don't make sense, for some (many? most?) people, that reminds them that it's just a game and breaks suspension of disbelief.
I personally don't care for (for example) the likes of itemized encumbrance. But you don't have to simulate everything to be practicing simulationism. It's a cost/benefit sort of thing. Enforce logic in places that are the most visible and require the least additional effort.
They like humour, they like over the top high adventure, they want to sit arpund with pals, whooping it up when they crit or blow 10 enemies to cinders,
Sure. Uh huh. Okay. Nothing here that doesn't happen every session for my 3e games here.
and enjoy being immersed in a fantasty which they are actively shaping, not being mere mooks to the DM and the rules.
And once you mention the word "immersed", you've hit on something that my 3e games have done better for me than less simulationist games out there.
(And I do some as part of my regular gaming line up, mind you. But I recognize games for their strengths and weaknesses.)
Your vision of gaming reality is less than universal.
We're roleplayers, not rollplayers.
That wasn't clever over 10 years ago when it was first uttered by someone as a way to declare their "
one true way" better than someone else's "
badwrongfun". Repition, overuse, and lack of originality in the last 10 years have made it less so.
You also couldn't put in loads of critters in 3rd ed, due to complexity and the very tricky balancing issues, which ruined a whole facet of combat.
Please do not say that is wrong, because it's patently obvious fact (or there wouldn't have had to be so much house ruling etc)
Funny, despite this supposed "fact", I haven't had particular problems. Indeed, if you wanted to pick an end of the spectrum that 3e isn't particular good at (and that 4e had some good answers for), it would be the singular enemy boss fight that, due to economy of actions, 3e parties tended to dominate unless you really loaded down said boss with some unfair abilities.
The Transformers refference was a bit of a cheap shot and shows a disconnect
And what disconnect would that be? I was just responding to how
cool you think all the bloodthirstiness and action is.