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Quote Originally Posted by ExploderWizard View Post
I just try to avoid gaming with snowflakes. Anyone that can be "triggered" by made up fantasy game content, isn't stable enough to be playing.
You saying that doesn't make it not true, nor an invalid approach to avoiding problems.
Some solutions just don't require a great deal of discussion.
Make what true?
I think the objection to the comment is that it wasn't a civil response. It was just name calling. It is also insensitive and seems mean-spirited, but mostly it was just a pointless comment.
But fine. Let's engage the comment as if it was sincere.
I'll assume the OP is using "snowflake" here mostly in the sense of "overly sensitive." I'll assume he is using "triggered" in the sense of either "greatly upset by" or a symptom of PTSD.
With my home games, I think I would agree with what I think ExploderWizards point is to some degree. I'm going to communicate the general theme of the game and I invite adults who should have the capacity to understand what the theme implies. I also play with experienced players in my home game, so they know what D&D is about and the various sword & sorcery tropes.
But I don't know all my players equally well. Some people I play with I've known since elementary school and others I've only been playing with for a few years. Some of the players I only know in the context of D&D. If they were sexually abused, or suffer from wartime PTSD (I play with a number of ex-military), or suffered a brutal attack at some point in their lives, well, it hasn't come up. If I was playing a game and described kids being used as human shields or killed in retaliation to, say, an NPC commoner family helping the party and if a player said, "hey, man, I'm not comfortable with this. I've seen the real thing in Iraq." Or just, "man, I have kids, this is making me uncomfortable." I'm not going to call them a "snowflake" and tell them to find another game.
It is tricker with public forums. Adventurer's League has a pretty clear code of conduct and the adventures themselves are designed, from what I've seen, to be pretty family friendly. Convention games outside of official organized play (PFS and AL) are even more tricky. I think event descriptions should note appropriate ages for the games (child only, all ages, over 18 only etc.). Yet, you are not going to be able to note everything that could upset anyone.
Still, if something does come up during play, is it so difficult to have some empathy and to be civil about it? The response may be that the thing that upsets you is integral to the plot, maybe this isn't the game for you. But if the player's issue can be accommodated, why not try? Why take a stand against empathy?
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