One even hears that … understanding why something has happened amounts to condoning, excusing, or even repeating the offending act.
Verbal dyspraxia absolutely can affect word choice. There are several kinds of dyspraxia, ranging from stuttering to the inability to “retrieve” a word to the substitution of one word for another, as in the example I gave from an interview with Lackey. It’s primarily the “error: file not found” and “wrong word” kinds that correlate with dyslexia.Would it be appropriate for a neuro-divergent person to use the N word? Also, dyspraxia does not affect your intelligence and word choice. I find it far more likely in the moment she used the word for lack of a better term. I dont believe she intended any offense, I honestly believe that. Though, I dont accept these excuses for it being ok either.
It’s not the only explanation for her word choice. But it’s a very plausible one given what we know of Lackey: dyslexic; has exhibited semantic substitution dyspraxia in previous interviews; and has for decades been widely regarded as one of the most progressive and inclusive white writers in SF.
As for whether it was “OK” or “appropriate”—see above.