I'm a DM that is currently running a 3.5/homebrew campaign with four players. I've got a player who is heavily religious(christian). Let's call him Jake. This usually isn't a problem, as he normally keeps his values away from the table and, in fact, uses D&D to express thoughts and actions he wouldn't normally have/perform in real life. The problem is simply this:
He wants to bring his girlfriend(call her Jane) into the campaign. This wouldn't be a problem (I'm rather vigilant about making sure my players know that outside feelings do not belong at the table), except that Jake is rather obsessed with her, to the point that he would drastically change both his personality and play-style at the table if she were present (he already has some issues with keeping personal feelings away from the table and I have talked to him about it).
Jane is heavily religious also, you see, and she is the type of person who would NOT keep her religion and the game separate(to the point of asking if God is an available deity). This being established, she has conditions like "keeping the game PG," essentially meaning that she doesn't want us to curse or mention sex. I don't necessarily run a lewd or vulgar campaign; but am I really supposed to stop the battle-weary NPC dwarf from explaining that "Those damned drow killed my party!"? Should I really try to censor the lecherous half-elf PC from making a comment about a barmaid's cleavage?
I understand that the easiest way to fix this is just to say "No." But, as I stated, Jake is obsessed with Jane and would, most likely, take offense if I explained myself. I don't want to lose one of my players, but I don't want to lose what I've built in my campaign. I have an ambiance that both my players and I enjoy.
I've got a dilemma, and would enjoy any sort of help anyone can offer.
Thank you in advance.
He wants to bring his girlfriend(call her Jane) into the campaign. This wouldn't be a problem (I'm rather vigilant about making sure my players know that outside feelings do not belong at the table), except that Jake is rather obsessed with her, to the point that he would drastically change both his personality and play-style at the table if she were present (he already has some issues with keeping personal feelings away from the table and I have talked to him about it).
Jane is heavily religious also, you see, and she is the type of person who would NOT keep her religion and the game separate(to the point of asking if God is an available deity). This being established, she has conditions like "keeping the game PG," essentially meaning that she doesn't want us to curse or mention sex. I don't necessarily run a lewd or vulgar campaign; but am I really supposed to stop the battle-weary NPC dwarf from explaining that "Those damned drow killed my party!"? Should I really try to censor the lecherous half-elf PC from making a comment about a barmaid's cleavage?
I understand that the easiest way to fix this is just to say "No." But, as I stated, Jake is obsessed with Jane and would, most likely, take offense if I explained myself. I don't want to lose one of my players, but I don't want to lose what I've built in my campaign. I have an ambiance that both my players and I enjoy.
I've got a dilemma, and would enjoy any sort of help anyone can offer.
Thank you in advance.