Seonaid
Explorer
Let me just say right off, because I neglected to earlier, that I see nothing wrong with having rape in a character's backstory. As others have said, done well it's a good plot device and part of a heck of a lot of literature (and history). I realize that's what I had quoted originally, but I wasn't responding just to that post.
I also don't mind if other people want to "play" at rape, as long as it is only play and the people involved are mature enough to understand what they are doing. I wouldn't want to play D&D with those people, and it kind of squicks me out, but I (obviously) have no say in what other people do in the privacy of their own games.
I guess I feel like rape is different than other atrocities because the overwhelming majority of rapes are committed against women. The others are "equal opportunity" crimes. (I'm not certain I'd list suicide in here, unless it was some sort of "forced" suicide.) In addition, a lot of people don't see rape as wrong, so it's a little harder to find the line between acceptable and not acceptable. Most people agree that taking the life of someone else is bad. Some people go farther and feel that taking the life of someone else who wants you to do it is bad. Given that people rarely say about a murder victim, "He was asking for it" or "She really wanted it," I feel that rape is a more serious and borderline case.
I guess that for practical purposes, it would depend on the group. If it was a bunch of 15 year old boys (and none of them had experienced any sexual trauma) I would be more concerned than if it was a mixed group of adults.
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WRT to the original post, I feel as others have said--it depends on the world. There is no one right answer. I think it would be neat if the dwarf and her clan did the opposite of what the players expect (as someone else said), or the opposite of what the people in the world would think, but that (and any other response) would depend on what type of world it is.
I would also be interested in learning how the situation played out. Do you have any updates for us, Visigani, or was it just a hypothetical?
I also don't mind if other people want to "play" at rape, as long as it is only play and the people involved are mature enough to understand what they are doing. I wouldn't want to play D&D with those people, and it kind of squicks me out, but I (obviously) have no say in what other people do in the privacy of their own games.
I guess I feel like rape is different than other atrocities because the overwhelming majority of rapes are committed against women. The others are "equal opportunity" crimes. (I'm not certain I'd list suicide in here, unless it was some sort of "forced" suicide.) In addition, a lot of people don't see rape as wrong, so it's a little harder to find the line between acceptable and not acceptable. Most people agree that taking the life of someone else is bad. Some people go farther and feel that taking the life of someone else who wants you to do it is bad. Given that people rarely say about a murder victim, "He was asking for it" or "She really wanted it," I feel that rape is a more serious and borderline case.
I guess that for practical purposes, it would depend on the group. If it was a bunch of 15 year old boys (and none of them had experienced any sexual trauma) I would be more concerned than if it was a mixed group of adults.
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WRT to the original post, I feel as others have said--it depends on the world. There is no one right answer. I think it would be neat if the dwarf and her clan did the opposite of what the players expect (as someone else said), or the opposite of what the people in the world would think, but that (and any other response) would depend on what type of world it is.
I would also be interested in learning how the situation played out. Do you have any updates for us, Visigani, or was it just a hypothetical?