That absolutely sucks. Sorry to hear that things came to this.
Still, it sounds like you the job enabled you to meet someone, save up some money, and get yourself something to work with (your club).
If your wife is doing well, why not look into another "dream job?"
Indie publishing is still out there, whether you do PnP or move into CRPGs.
Edit: Missed the part about the wife getting layed off
Eeek. Hope you can get the ball rolling and get yourselves back on your feet.