Mercurius
Legend
Are you saying that "sacrifices" made for role-playing time are better than "sacrifices" for video game time? How does that even make sense? If you are compromising your life - work, spouse, friends, kids, whatever - for a hobby, no matter what hobby it is, I don't see how you can say one is better than another.
This is a rather dangerous statement if you take it too far. "No matter what the hobby is?" This is a kind of relativistic extremism that could be used to rationalize just about anything. Furthermore, there is no sense of differentiation, of value, or merit of different hobbies, which I just disagree with. There is a difference between oil painting and collecting pornographic memorabilia; obviously that is an extreme example, but it illustrates my point about the problem of saying "no matter what the hobby is."
For the record, gaming IS immature - but so is playing most childhood games as an adult, including football, baseball, and golf. OK, maybe not golf; golf is serious. But we play them anyways. Why? Well, since we don't have to hunt for food anymore, my guess is that guys (and gals) need a competitive (and creative) outlet. It simulates (and temporarily satisfies) our instincts to gather more resources.
I take issue with this sort of highly materialistic and deterministic perspective. By the same logic, art, music, philosophy, and all aspects of human culture are just "filler" for the lack of a need to hunt and gather. This may have some degree of truth to it, but is like describing the Grand Canyon as "a big hole in the ground." Yes, it is a big hole in the ground but it is so much more.
Furthermore, I see this general perspective as part of the problem of "play for adults is bad." I'm with Ursula Le Guin when she says, "The creative adult is the child who survived." When we impede or castigate or trivialize our imagination and our innate need to play, to experience wonder and joy,we risk atrophying a vital part of ourselves. Look at the world we live in--politics, Wallstreet, genocide, terrorism, etc--it is filled with people who don't play, who have lost the sense of wonder.
You won't take my advice, but I'm going to offer it anyway:
Do not marry this girl.
Don't take this person's advice, who is offering it after reading a few paragraphs of what you have wrote, with no understanding of your relationship beyond a few dozen words.
Come on, Vegepygmy. I mean, I get it: We should accept who we plan to marry for who they are, not who we want them to be. Very true. But we know very little about their relationship dynamic or how open-minded she is capable of being. Let's not be too extreme as to recommend that he not marry her without at least knowing a bit more about their relationship.