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<blockquote data-quote="pukunui" data-source="post: 5541812" data-attributes="member: 54629"><p>No, I was never invited. But I would've declined even if I had because I don't like Pathfinder at all. </p><p> </p><p><em>I'm</em> the one being inflexible?!</p><p></p><p>It does, doesn't it? I didn't mean it that way. I should've just said that I don't like Pathfinder so I wouldn't want to play even if invited, but I was still angry at the time (I've since had a good night's sleep) and I was thinking along the lines of not wanting to play PF with that specific GM because of how upset I was with him.</p><p></p><p>I don't really want to get into that here. I've got one player who hates house rules on principle. He'd much rather play by the book, even when the book doesn't make sense or flat out doesn't work. Actually, he's always telling me to "just make a call", and yet he seems to get annoyed when I do just that (or at least when my judgment call ends up creating a new house rule).</p><p></p><p>Yes, exactly!</p><p></p><p>I think I need to clear up a few things: first, the other three players haven't exactly <em>left</em> my group. The only one who has left so far is the new guy who started up the PF game. The others have still been playing Star Wars as well as Pathfinder. The trouble is that I want more flexibility in when I run Star Wars. In the past, I mostly ran my game on a fortnightly basis, but sometimes I ran it several weeks in a row. I can't do that now because I've got half my group playing in another game in the same "time slot" and the GM of that game flatly refuses to adjust his schedule. The thing is, I feel like if he'd bothered to keep me in the loop (<em>"Hey, I'm looking at starting up a PF game, and these three other guys in your group want to play, and the only day that works for us is Friday, and since the 4e game your group was playing in imploded, I thought I might run my PF game on the Fridays when you're not running SW ..."</em>), I think I might not have ended so upset about it. I might have been able to talk to him about it and air my concerns before things got set in stone. I would've reminded him that I like to play weekly sometimes and we could've hashed out an agreement. Now I feel like it's too late. The competing game was sprung on me, and I feel like my freedom as a GM has been taken away. So I suppose perhaps I shouldn't say that my "group" was stolen from me but that my "freedom" and "flexibility" to adjust the gaming schedule were.</p><p></p><p>So I'm going to take my freedom back by force, if necessary!</p><p></p><p></p><p>Also, regarding the three players who are in both campaigns:</p><p></p><p>#1 made it clear to me in no uncertain terms that, if forced to make a choice, he would choose the PF game; he also said that he was fairly confident the other two would make the same choice (turns out he was wrong). This hurt because of our history. He's the only remaining "founding" member of our original gaming group that started up about 5 years ago. But I can understand his decision. And to be brutally honest, I'm not sure I'd be all that sad to see the back of him because he's become really cynical and negative over the past six months or so. I think his work situation has a lot to do with it.</p><p></p><p>#2 has told me that he's not enjoying the current SW adventure, but that he would like to keep playing. However, he's not going to give up the PF game either. So I've told him that he's still welcome, but if he's not comfortable with the idea of missing out a SW game every time there's a PF game on the same night, then he should consider dropping out of my group altogether and that I wouldn't hold it against him if he did so.</p><p></p><p>#3 seemed genuinely shocked when I told him what was going on, and he professed that he is enjoying both games and would like to continue playing in both games (so #1 was very much wrong about #3 being so unhappy with my campaign that he was on the verge of quitting). I've told him the same thing I told #2: that he's still welcome, but that if he's not comfortable with the idea of missing SW games on a regular basis, it might be better for him to drop out.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I don't know if that clears things up any or not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pukunui, post: 5541812, member: 54629"] No, I was never invited. But I would've declined even if I had because I don't like Pathfinder at all. [i]I'm[/i] the one being inflexible?! It does, doesn't it? I didn't mean it that way. I should've just said that I don't like Pathfinder so I wouldn't want to play even if invited, but I was still angry at the time (I've since had a good night's sleep) and I was thinking along the lines of not wanting to play PF with that specific GM because of how upset I was with him. I don't really want to get into that here. I've got one player who hates house rules on principle. He'd much rather play by the book, even when the book doesn't make sense or flat out doesn't work. Actually, he's always telling me to "just make a call", and yet he seems to get annoyed when I do just that (or at least when my judgment call ends up creating a new house rule). Yes, exactly! I think I need to clear up a few things: first, the other three players haven't exactly [i]left[/i] my group. The only one who has left so far is the new guy who started up the PF game. The others have still been playing Star Wars as well as Pathfinder. The trouble is that I want more flexibility in when I run Star Wars. In the past, I mostly ran my game on a fortnightly basis, but sometimes I ran it several weeks in a row. I can't do that now because I've got half my group playing in another game in the same "time slot" and the GM of that game flatly refuses to adjust his schedule. The thing is, I feel like if he'd bothered to keep me in the loop ([i]"Hey, I'm looking at starting up a PF game, and these three other guys in your group want to play, and the only day that works for us is Friday, and since the 4e game your group was playing in imploded, I thought I might run my PF game on the Fridays when you're not running SW ..."[/i]), I think I might not have ended so upset about it. I might have been able to talk to him about it and air my concerns before things got set in stone. I would've reminded him that I like to play weekly sometimes and we could've hashed out an agreement. Now I feel like it's too late. The competing game was sprung on me, and I feel like my freedom as a GM has been taken away. So I suppose perhaps I shouldn't say that my "group" was stolen from me but that my "freedom" and "flexibility" to adjust the gaming schedule were. So I'm going to take my freedom back by force, if necessary! Also, regarding the three players who are in both campaigns: #1 made it clear to me in no uncertain terms that, if forced to make a choice, he would choose the PF game; he also said that he was fairly confident the other two would make the same choice (turns out he was wrong). This hurt because of our history. He's the only remaining "founding" member of our original gaming group that started up about 5 years ago. But I can understand his decision. And to be brutally honest, I'm not sure I'd be all that sad to see the back of him because he's become really cynical and negative over the past six months or so. I think his work situation has a lot to do with it. #2 has told me that he's not enjoying the current SW adventure, but that he would like to keep playing. However, he's not going to give up the PF game either. So I've told him that he's still welcome, but if he's not comfortable with the idea of missing out a SW game every time there's a PF game on the same night, then he should consider dropping out of my group altogether and that I wouldn't hold it against him if he did so. #3 seemed genuinely shocked when I told him what was going on, and he professed that he is enjoying both games and would like to continue playing in both games (so #1 was very much wrong about #3 being so unhappy with my campaign that he was on the verge of quitting). I've told him the same thing I told #2: that he's still welcome, but that if he's not comfortable with the idea of missing SW games on a regular basis, it might be better for him to drop out. I don't know if that clears things up any or not. [/QUOTE]
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