Harr said:It just got me to thinking. I really did feel very sad when I heard Gygax passed. I even shed a few tears. When I read that post by Rouse confirming that 4th would be dedicated to him, I genuinely felt a surge of emotion. It was real.
Now I read this, it's very logical and cold, and I myself am usually a logical and cold person. I find myself torn between the two sides. I don't know what to think, really. Do we really feel a connection to this man, or are we just 'clinging'? Is it normal to want to honor and praise the man for his contribution to our life, or are we deluding ourselves to a certain extent?
Hey, you've just pushed a red-button issue for me. As a fellow logical, cold, historically conflicted person (when it comes to dealing with the society of people), I've become fiercely protective about one point of personal philosophy I've constructed over time.
YOUR FEELINGS ARE LEGITIMATE. Yours. Not necessarily someone else's. You'll feel sad and morose and depressed, and happy and bemused and confused over different things from other people. You'll mourn lost family & friends in a different fashion from other people. It may be shorter or much, much longer.
You should feel sad at the loss of people who touched you in this life. It shouldn't be easy to shrug off and forget people who said or wrote something that meant a lot to you. You should be connecting with smart, intense people who are so potent that their loss leaves a big gap in your life. Life lived otherwise isn't really very worthwhile.
So I say, *F* this guy. He doesn't get to talk you out of your emotions. Whatever you're feeling is legitimate and nothing to be ashamed of. If you shed a few tears, then yes, you really did feel a connection to this guy. Don't let anyone try to convince you that you can't feel a certain way. It's about the dumbest thing (and biggest waste of time, because at some point you'll just wind up realizing that you really did feel that way) anyone can do to you.
There's my pep talk from one geek to another for the day. Your feelings are different from most folks'. And that makes them even more worthwhile.
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