My wife really, really wants to understand what it is I'm doing every Thursday nights when the dudes (unfortunately there's no women in my gaming group) come over and make with the funny talking and moving little toys around on the table. I've tried to explain it, but apparently I'm not doing a very good job because we very quickly end up at "I want to get it, but I just don't". I don't ask this as a "how do I get my wife to play D&D" question- that's not my or her motivation. I can tell that she just really wants to understand it, the same way I would want to understand something she really cared about it even if it wasn't my thing, because that's just part of what makes for a good relationship.
So, how have you explained roleplaying (both in the sense of a more tactical game like D&D, but also in the larger, story-oriented sense)? The part I'm struggling with is getting across the point that it's fantastic and imaginative, but not purely escapist, and that it can be super rules-based but doesn't have to be. It doesn't help that her only exposure is to my current group, which is super combat-focused. Thoughts?
So, how have you explained roleplaying (both in the sense of a more tactical game like D&D, but also in the larger, story-oriented sense)? The part I'm struggling with is getting across the point that it's fantastic and imaginative, but not purely escapist, and that it can be super rules-based but doesn't have to be. It doesn't help that her only exposure is to my current group, which is super combat-focused. Thoughts?