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This afternoon, I got an e-mail from my grandmother.
Ok.... I wrote back and asked when she was planning on coming up.
Now here's the thing: I don't like my grandmother. Up until about seven years ago, she was always nice to me. But over the last few years, she's changed. I learned from my mom that she's (my grandma) always been mean to her (my mom) and said things to belittle her. I never heard anything like that growing up, but my parents said it happened a lot when I wasn't around.
Also, my grandmother no longer speaks to my dad. She is one of those people that will beg for money and promise to pay you back and never does. And if you don't lend her more money later, she'll tell you she's a bad person.
She's also manipulative. She no longer speaks to my father because she threatened to kill herself if he didn't come and see her (or something like that I'm not sure exactly why she threatened to do this and my dad won't tell me.) She's tried to "guilt-trip" me before and I've told her, in specific terms, that trying to make me feel guilty will never work. She says "you sound just like your father." I take it as a compliment.
Anyway, my problem is that, while I don't like her, she's still my grandmother and I don't want to just say " no, take your psycho ass elsewhere." Especially since she wants to see her great-grandson, whom she's never met before. So what do I do? How do I say no? There's no way I want her in my house. I wouldn't mind going to her place for a few hours (she lives in Alabama) but that's because I can leave when I want to.
We are planning on going to Florida over the week of July 4. Maybe we can go north a bit (it's a 4 hour trip) and visit for a bit.
Grandma said:
Ok.... I wrote back and asked when she was planning on coming up.
Grandma said:
Now here's the thing: I don't like my grandmother. Up until about seven years ago, she was always nice to me. But over the last few years, she's changed. I learned from my mom that she's (my grandma) always been mean to her (my mom) and said things to belittle her. I never heard anything like that growing up, but my parents said it happened a lot when I wasn't around.
Also, my grandmother no longer speaks to my dad. She is one of those people that will beg for money and promise to pay you back and never does. And if you don't lend her more money later, she'll tell you she's a bad person.
She's also manipulative. She no longer speaks to my father because she threatened to kill herself if he didn't come and see her (or something like that I'm not sure exactly why she threatened to do this and my dad won't tell me.) She's tried to "guilt-trip" me before and I've told her, in specific terms, that trying to make me feel guilty will never work. She says "you sound just like your father." I take it as a compliment.
Anyway, my problem is that, while I don't like her, she's still my grandmother and I don't want to just say "
no, take your psycho ass elsewhere." Especially since she wants to see her great-grandson, whom she's never met before. So what do I do? How do I say no? There's no way I want her in my house. I wouldn't mind going to her place for a few hours (she lives in Alabama) but that's because I can leave when I want to.We are planning on going to Florida over the week of July 4. Maybe we can go north a bit (it's a 4 hour trip) and visit for a bit.
