I met my girlfriend over the Internet, and I wasn't looking for one at the time, which is I think how it worked. I was on IRC a lot at the beginning of college as part of a writer's workshop, and started talking to a girl out in Overland Park, Kansas. After a while we realized that we were talking a whole lot, and there was some general level of affection there; we did care about how each other's day was going and all that, and were fast becoming friends, and while neither of us was immediately opposed to the idea of a relationship, we decided all those ideas would have to hold off until we met, should that ever happen. ABout ten months after we first started talking, I visited a friend out in Kansas and met her, and we decided to try the whole relationship thing. I then made plans to try and move out this way. About a year and a bit ago, I managed to move out here, finally, and we've been doing great ever since.
We've been together three years, and the distance can be a huge killer. It's very hard to have a relationship stay strong for even a short amount of time long distance, especially when there's a thousand miles between you. I met her online, but we didn't decide anything until we met to see if there -really- was any chemistry there. That's how I'd recommend doing things. We chatted online for around an hour most every night, and I emailed her from work, and she called me every weekend, for two years.
I have a friend who's been with his girlfriend for around five years now, and she lives in Australia. He's here in the U.S. They see each other twice a year, for an extended period of time each time. He's pretty good at this whole long-distance relationship thing, but there's got to be that chance of things not being long distance in the near future.
I don't recommend a long distance relationship, though; they're hard, no doubt about it. But if the other person's worth it, then you carry on.
We've found that our start online has helped us a lot with communication, too. When all you do is talk, you get good at that. We don't have many miscommunication problems.
This is Matt, who also recommends you never ride a Greyhound bus for 25 hours to meet someone for the first time. Fly. Just trust me on this one.