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Is it rude to offer other players unsolicited optimization advice?
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<blockquote data-quote="Man in the Funny Hat" data-source="post: 3102414" data-attributes="member: 32740"><p>I find it interesting that the huge majority of responders in the thread, <em>regardless of whether they say yes or no</em>, qualify the response by saying that it really depends, generally on the tact of the offerer or the circumstances of the moment and not the mere offer of advice in and of itself.</p><p></p><p>We have now WELL established that the WAY in which you offer "advice" can be done rudely, and it did not need a poll to make that clear. The OP has indicated that his intent was to determine if the offer of advice in and of itself is rude, not whether such an offer can be made in a rude manner. I would seriously propose that this thread be ended and a NEW poll put up that clarifies things:</p><p></p><p>Assuming the offer is otherwise made in a respectful and polite manner is it rude <em>in and of itself</em> to offer advice to another player about optimization?</p><p></p><p>I say no it is not rude to simply offer optimization advice. It is in fact rude to <em>take offense</em> at an otherwise polite, well-intentioned offer of advice. The appropriate response if the advice is not needed or desired is, "Thank you for your suggestion but I prefer to make these decisions entirely on my own without interference." The appropriate response in turn is to say, "I don't have a problem with that. Since it is your character you may do as you wish. I shall reserve my commentary and suggestion."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Man in the Funny Hat, post: 3102414, member: 32740"] I find it interesting that the huge majority of responders in the thread, [I]regardless of whether they say yes or no[/I], qualify the response by saying that it really depends, generally on the tact of the offerer or the circumstances of the moment and not the mere offer of advice in and of itself. We have now WELL established that the WAY in which you offer "advice" can be done rudely, and it did not need a poll to make that clear. The OP has indicated that his intent was to determine if the offer of advice in and of itself is rude, not whether such an offer can be made in a rude manner. I would seriously propose that this thread be ended and a NEW poll put up that clarifies things: Assuming the offer is otherwise made in a respectful and polite manner is it rude [I]in and of itself[/I] to offer advice to another player about optimization? I say no it is not rude to simply offer optimization advice. It is in fact rude to [I]take offense[/I] at an otherwise polite, well-intentioned offer of advice. The appropriate response if the advice is not needed or desired is, "Thank you for your suggestion but I prefer to make these decisions entirely on my own without interference." The appropriate response in turn is to say, "I don't have a problem with that. Since it is your character you may do as you wish. I shall reserve my commentary and suggestion." [/QUOTE]
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