Dremen said:4. She thought I was a Jock untill we got married. I'm very active but she never saw the amount of time I read, she felt kinda like she didn't know me. It is hard to REALLY get to know somebody till you live together. She knew I gamed and even went a couple of times.
Maraxle said:Playing on the weekend is your mistake. Make it a week night. Make it a maximum of 3-4 hours, and she should be happy. That's what seems to work for me and my players. You should be spending time with her on the weekend, anyway.
Steve Conan Trustrum said:In my opinion, the best thing to do is use logic to back her into a corner with logic and make her realize how silly she's being.
I would never claim to be an expert on women, but I can guarantee that trying to trap one with logic is a really, really bad idea. This is clearly an emotional, rather than logical, situation for her, and should be treated as such. It's not the fact that you're playing D&D. She's hurt by losing half of her weekend time with you to a bunch of "gaming geeks."Steve Conan Trustrum said:In my opinion, the best thing to do is use logic to back her into a corner with logic and make her realize how silly she's being. Tell your wife that you're having these same guys over one weekend to do something as simple as watch a video, sporting event, or just to sit on the back porch and drink some beers. Do this for a couple of weekends and then let her know that they're coming over for some D&D. When she starts going on about how it's a waste of time and how you have better ways to spend your time, ask her something like "you mean like having these same guys over just to watch TV or drink beers?" Once you've pointed out that she's had no problem with you doing things that are by far a more wasteful use of time (in her eyes, at least), you can start making her accept that she is just prejudiced against DnD and can start working on that. Doing things like this work for me all the time, but it all depends on how willing one's girlfriend/wife is to back down once you've backed her into a corner using her own "logic" against her.