1) A strong seconding of the suggestion of the Kensai PrCl.
2) Consider using a Spear: you're probably going to have a high dex, which means you'll have the option of having many AoOs if you take Combat Reflexes. You needn't worry about those who get within your reach since you have IUC with your monk levels.
If you use DCv1, you can couple that Longspear and Combat Reflexes with Weapon Focus and the feat Pole Fighter, which lets you treat a polearm as a monk weapon. All of a sudden, you'll be Flurrying with that spear.
3) Again, if you use the DCv1, you'll have access to 2 other potentially good monk feats: Unorthodox Flurry and Ring the Golden Bell. UF does what Pole Fighter does, but for any 1 handed or smaller weapon. RtGB has the highest KEWL factor, though- it lets you use your unarmed attacks at a range!
4) As for VoP, I'm one of the GMs who see the RAW interpretation of the feat as excluding a Holy Symbol as violating the feat's internal logic. What divine being would ask its most devoted servants to give up even a simple symbol of that being, one that costs less than most of the weapons an Ascetic PC can use, and especially since it potentially neuters the PC? (That's all I'll say on it unless someone else starts up a new VoP thread.)