Sorry! I had a play and then I couldn't find the threat. Anyway, some clarifications--
I tried to sit down and see what she found insulting, and I ran out of time. One thing she found insulting, was their height, and the fact that the PHB said all elves have green eyes. I told her I'd gladly change it, but she says she still can't read the PHB for too long at a time without wanting to shoot Gary Gygax. I asked her if she wanted to be out, and she said hell no.
She's currently a christian, but wants to convert to shintoism and does believe in elves.
And this is probably the longest thread I've ever started... Of course, I haven't started many... ^_^;