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And these different preferences are only a problem in two situations that I've seen.Well, having seen this discussion play out approximately (checks notes) One Hundred Million Billion Times per month on EnWorld (numbers are approximate, yet also completely true), I think that the reason that there is no common ground on this issue is that because, at root, it goes down to deep-seated preferences.
In the end, it's fine that people have different preferences. Really! Seriously, there are those that want their martials all mundane, or, at most, a little Conan-y. And there are those that want Martials goin' all Wuxia and wielding swords that are four times the length of their bodies and jumping up 200 feet to bash a demon lord in the face.
There is no wrong preference. Problem is, people feel the need to argue that their preference is a universal "correct" way to do it, usually by asserting various collateral arguments (anything from verisimilitude to balance to tradition to the need to change with the times to whatever) when those aren't going to sway people.
People like what they like. You can't force someone to like something. You can expose them to it, but if they don't like it, that's they way that it is. You can't talk them out of it, no matter how often, and in how many threads, and no matter how many different ways you make the same point.
One is when there are people at the table with different preferences on this and it leads to play not matching expectations. The solution here of course is to talk about it like reasonable people and figure out how to make it work. Or maybe figure out that you can't make it work in which case someone needs to deal with not getting their preference or leave the table.
The other is when someone cannot walk away from someone else being wrong on the Internet. The solution here of course is to spew pointless pixels at each other ad infinitum or at least ad nauseum.