Andrew D. Gable
First Post
I want to preface this post with a statement of intent - it is not my intent to start any sort of edition war or argument about which system is better. In fact, the only real reason I'm mentioning edition numbers is for ease of reference.
I also need to mention that I'd like to resolve this situation with not causing anyone to get any more pissed than necessary. That said, I'm beginning to draw a blank as to how to resolve it WITHOUT pissing anyone off.
We're currently playing 4e. Well, not really as we won't really get together again until November at the earliest. A few weeks ago, I realized just how much stuff from 3e I have. I also realized I'm converting a lot of stuff from 3e to 4e, which as DMs here know isn't really very easy at all. I had the idea to cut out the conversion time - if 3e was more to my liking than 4e, which it is, why not just stick with 3e? After all, back when 4e came out I told the players that we'd try it. Not that I'd necessarily be sticking with it. I had always been saying that I very well may want to switch back to 3e after I had some experience with the system, because honestly I wasn't too fond of it from the get-go. But I was willing to give it a shot.
But I'm now wondering whether the expectation was always that I would want to stick with 4e and never look back.
Of the five in my group - myself and four players;
1. I, of course, want to do 3rd.
2. My wife wants to go back to 3rd, I always did feel bad that we had just gotten her used to that ruleset and then abruptly changed to 4e and she has to get used to a whole new ruleset.
3. The guy who's playing the bard right now really doesn't have any preference on system. He seems to be focused towards the story end of things rather than the mechanics.
4. One player, I think, really has no opinion on the matter. Seems more "playing DnD for something to do" than gamer geek. Also the SO of #5.
5. The last? Doesn't seem to want to budge off 4e. Seemed genuinely shocked that I didn't like it. Some of the comments gave me the impression that - although they were worded nicely - as I understood it, they were almost criticisms on the way I DM, basically seemed to be saying if I ran the game a different way (the player's way) it wouldn't go so bad. Didn't particularly (IMHO) even seem too keen when I mentioned a compromise system, something like maybe working DnD into the SW Saga ruleset which is a good middle ground between 3 and 4, to me.
Fact is, I just don't understand why this would be - we've only been playing 4e for a matter of months, not long enough IMHO to get this die-hard devoted to a system - in contrast, we were playing 3e for pretty much the entire run. So 7 or 8 years at minimum. I'd think that all the players, as well as myself of course, are much more familiar with 3e and I, for one, would rather do one I'm familiar with.
This might be a poor attitude on my part but I'm of the mind that as Player #2 and #3 are the only other ones who actually OWN any 4e materials, well, I halfway want to say they're the only ones whose opinions I even should pay attention to.
Also keep in mind that I think the fact that I'm not very tactically-minded I think accounts for my distaste in part. It's the same reason I'm not very good at Magic, which honestly seems to have been a very great influence on 4e.
I also need to mention that I'd like to resolve this situation with not causing anyone to get any more pissed than necessary. That said, I'm beginning to draw a blank as to how to resolve it WITHOUT pissing anyone off.
We're currently playing 4e. Well, not really as we won't really get together again until November at the earliest. A few weeks ago, I realized just how much stuff from 3e I have. I also realized I'm converting a lot of stuff from 3e to 4e, which as DMs here know isn't really very easy at all. I had the idea to cut out the conversion time - if 3e was more to my liking than 4e, which it is, why not just stick with 3e? After all, back when 4e came out I told the players that we'd try it. Not that I'd necessarily be sticking with it. I had always been saying that I very well may want to switch back to 3e after I had some experience with the system, because honestly I wasn't too fond of it from the get-go. But I was willing to give it a shot.
But I'm now wondering whether the expectation was always that I would want to stick with 4e and never look back.
Of the five in my group - myself and four players;
1. I, of course, want to do 3rd.
2. My wife wants to go back to 3rd, I always did feel bad that we had just gotten her used to that ruleset and then abruptly changed to 4e and she has to get used to a whole new ruleset.
3. The guy who's playing the bard right now really doesn't have any preference on system. He seems to be focused towards the story end of things rather than the mechanics.
4. One player, I think, really has no opinion on the matter. Seems more "playing DnD for something to do" than gamer geek. Also the SO of #5.
5. The last? Doesn't seem to want to budge off 4e. Seemed genuinely shocked that I didn't like it. Some of the comments gave me the impression that - although they were worded nicely - as I understood it, they were almost criticisms on the way I DM, basically seemed to be saying if I ran the game a different way (the player's way) it wouldn't go so bad. Didn't particularly (IMHO) even seem too keen when I mentioned a compromise system, something like maybe working DnD into the SW Saga ruleset which is a good middle ground between 3 and 4, to me.
Fact is, I just don't understand why this would be - we've only been playing 4e for a matter of months, not long enough IMHO to get this die-hard devoted to a system - in contrast, we were playing 3e for pretty much the entire run. So 7 or 8 years at minimum. I'd think that all the players, as well as myself of course, are much more familiar with 3e and I, for one, would rather do one I'm familiar with.
This might be a poor attitude on my part but I'm of the mind that as Player #2 and #3 are the only other ones who actually OWN any 4e materials, well, I halfway want to say they're the only ones whose opinions I even should pay attention to.
Also keep in mind that I think the fact that I'm not very tactically-minded I think accounts for my distaste in part. It's the same reason I'm not very good at Magic, which honestly seems to have been a very great influence on 4e.