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<blockquote data-quote="Celebrim" data-source="post: 6937388" data-attributes="member: 4937"><p>I am very flattered when a player expresses a romantic interest in an NPC, because it means I've been doing my job as a DM characterizing that NPC well. I've had plenty of players both male and female get "crushes" on NPCs, and as long as it stays at that level I'm ok with it. I don't get wierded out being the girl or the boy in a mildly flirtatious relationship, although I confess it surprised me and threw me off my game the first time it happened with a gay player.... for all of 15 seconds or so, just because I wasn't anticipating it.</p><p></p><p>But that is where it stops, and anything beyond that is like the wedding bed scene in <em>Les Miserables</em> - let us now draw a curtain over the scene, upon which we will not intrude. The details are not important to my game.</p><p></p><p>If I had to guess, many players have a romantic attachment of a sort to their opposite gendered PC, in that many will choose PC which has traits that they find desirable or attractive in a member of the opposite gender. This is not that different than how I suspect and have observed many readers engage with characters from fiction. For example, when I have discussed Tolkien with female fans, I was initially surprised to discover how many of them developed a romantic attachment to the male characters - not only Aragorn or Faramir (obviously), but even Frodo, Sam, Merry, or Pippin, Again, I'm ok with that sort of (inevitable?) exploration, so long as it is romantic rather than erotic in nature. A PC as an idealized romantic partner, is generally treated with much more respect than a PC as mere sexual object. I haven't had a player create a PC as sexual object, but if one did, I imagine it would almost immediately be obvious and immediately break the 'keep it PG' rule.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Celebrim, post: 6937388, member: 4937"] I am very flattered when a player expresses a romantic interest in an NPC, because it means I've been doing my job as a DM characterizing that NPC well. I've had plenty of players both male and female get "crushes" on NPCs, and as long as it stays at that level I'm ok with it. I don't get wierded out being the girl or the boy in a mildly flirtatious relationship, although I confess it surprised me and threw me off my game the first time it happened with a gay player.... for all of 15 seconds or so, just because I wasn't anticipating it. But that is where it stops, and anything beyond that is like the wedding bed scene in [I]Les Miserables[/I] - let us now draw a curtain over the scene, upon which we will not intrude. The details are not important to my game. If I had to guess, many players have a romantic attachment of a sort to their opposite gendered PC, in that many will choose PC which has traits that they find desirable or attractive in a member of the opposite gender. This is not that different than how I suspect and have observed many readers engage with characters from fiction. For example, when I have discussed Tolkien with female fans, I was initially surprised to discover how many of them developed a romantic attachment to the male characters - not only Aragorn or Faramir (obviously), but even Frodo, Sam, Merry, or Pippin, Again, I'm ok with that sort of (inevitable?) exploration, so long as it is romantic rather than erotic in nature. A PC as an idealized romantic partner, is generally treated with much more respect than a PC as mere sexual object. I haven't had a player create a PC as sexual object, but if one did, I imagine it would almost immediately be obvious and immediately break the 'keep it PG' rule. [/QUOTE]
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