jbear
First Post
Here is this reference to nerds and D&D again. Given, this may have been so back in the day. I question, however, the idea that D&D appeals to such a narrow range of people. This is certainly not been my experience. Anecdotes at best, maybe. But personal experience is still valid.Roleplaying appeals to nerds and there are fewer female nerds than male nerds.
If you want to make rpg-ing appeal to non-nerds then you need to get rid of the 300 page rulebooks, as WoW and murder mysteries have done.
Of course then the nerds will say:
1) It doesn't have a 300 page rulebook, so I don't like it. And people that do like it are stupid.
2) It isn't a roleplaying game so it has no place in our hobby.
My group currently consists of 4 women, myself and 1 guy. We are all friends, my wife plays, so does her sister. 2 other women have been involved in the game, as have 3 other guys, at different times. They have come and gone for a wide range of reasons. Those that remain are the most stalwart players, the hardened core who have sunk their teeth deep into the game. Combat is at least a 50% feature of the game, and all my players relish rolling dice, playing tactically and thumping bad guys. Only one of the 4 women has ever said that she preferred the roleplaying part/skill challenges. After I tweaked her character she has recently expressed that she now enjoys combat more and more.
So, is this just an exception to the rule?
Personally, I have my doubts. Is there some underlying combination of key elements going on that has lead to such a happy chemistry where women are enjoying playing D&D on a regular basis?
Perhaps in part. Or perhaps it is merely the absence of some negative factors that Dark Mistress expressed has influenced her gaming experience, namely the 'creep' mentioned in several other posts.
Interest? Appeal? I think when you begin to use words like that with such broad strokes in relation to women, 'non-nerds' and playing D&D, then I think you're largely mistaken. I believe exposure and opportunity to learn the game in a friendly, comfortable, social environment play a big part in keeping D&D, and roleplaying in general, tagged with nerd-stigma.
I have introduced D&D to loads of people:
When I travelled through Italy with a circus, not only did I get the circus kids passionate about reading introducing them to Fantasy Books, but I got them into D&D as well. Yes, and the girls too! They never knew the amazing journey a book could take them on. They started asking for books for birthday presents! And one of the kids even made up his own game and DMed for us. Nerds??? Hardly! Acrobats, Jugglers, Trapeze artists and Tight Rope Walkers.
Other people that came and went from that game as people visited or I came and went included my friend who I did street theatre with, a skinny rake with dreadlocks down to his knees who walks the slack rope now on cabaret shows around europe when he is not meditating under a tree in silence for months in India. My girlfriend at the time, now wife and mother of my two children also played and continues to play with great relish. I'd already introduced her to Magic The Gathering, which we took with us on our travels, playing it between pints in bars all over Europe and the Canary Islands. To call her a nerd, well, you'd be having a hard time backing your words up. I won't brag and say how hot she is (oops, too late), but I will say she is a physiotherapist who became independant with her own job and house at the age of 21, which is very rare in Spain. Her other hobbies are cycling, rollerblading and bellydancing. Not very nerdy...
When we settled down in Madrid I got a game going with my girlfriend's entire family: mum, dad and sister. Her dad was the one that struggled the most, to say the least. And he is by far the nerdiest person I have ever played with, spending large amounts of his time studying 'neutrinos' and other related topics. Her mum is a real estate agent and part-time tarot card reader and santerista. Her passion: salsa! They are from Cuba... come on now, ever met a Cuban that you'd call a nerd? Really? Her sister is a pediatrist. She is totally into her fitness. She's one of those people who knows absolutely everyone in town.
I could go on about the other 7 different people i've introduced D&D to since 4e has come out: 1 artisan, 2 factory workers, 1 high school teacher, 1 secretary, 1 kung fu teacher, 1 grants commisioner. To say the least, a wide enough range of people from very different social upbringings, with different astes, interests, religions, political views etc. Yet, each of them showed interest and was appealed by the idea of playing D&D. I just gave them the chance to do it, where as otherwide, they never would have got to, nor would the thought occured to them to actively seek a game out... not in a million years.
I won't even get into telling you about the 10 kids I introduced it to on a summer camp in Ireland, kids form France, Russia, Spain and Greece ... sure some of them were a bit nerdy, but not all of them. And again 5 of those kids were girls. And when someone they looked up to put the game on the table and said, okay, who wants to give this a spin, the interest and the attraction was universal.
I could talk about my fellow worker, an actor doing a course in New York at the moment (who incidently got an audition for the HBO series they are about to start filming, 'A Game of Thrones'...which I'm sure will ring a bell), and helps run the juggling Club in Belfast in his spare time, and his friends who we organised a game with during the evenings (yep there was a girl involved in that too)... but I think I made my point a few paragraphs ago...
So, yeah, a few anecdotes at best. But I'm sure they bear some relevance.
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