Voadam
Legend
You are right. In Libris Mortis for 3.5 they can rebuke undead, but their main power is mind thrusting and having dominate and suggestion a few times a day. I was getting them confused with the 2e Ravenloft Living Brain which is very much mind control psionics and turns out is not even undead.I don't have any books with me, but I thought they could rebuke undead like an evil cleric or otherwise had some sort of undead control.
Nightshades always felt rather gamist to me, in that they mainly seem to exist to fill a slot for 'high CR undead' while not actually having the general backstory of 'once alive, but now not quite dead' we normally associate with undead.
They didn't used to have any background, just stats.
Undead Revisited from Paizo gives them a cool fleshed out extraplanar background. Similar for the Devourer.