The one night stand culture

[Zombie_Babies]

Not only did they complain-people do that all the time-they actually got a substantial legal decision and regulatory changes.

Quite true. It's amazing ... and very, very sad. We're worried about kids seeing what most of them saw multiple times a day - right up in their grills, too. It's just so stupid.

There have also been significant legal issues surrounding breast feeding in public, and there's a go topless protest movement. Conversely, in Europe you can see topless ads in mainstream publications. America has a thing about breasts.

Yup, it's crazy how backwards we are in America concerning that stuff. When I went to Greece we were in an area that didn't allow topless sunbathing and yet I saw many topless women enjoying the rays. The 'ban' was never enforced. Some people understand that there's nothing bad about the body I guess.

 

[Bullgrit]

Don't knock it 'til you've tried it. As long as you're communicating, consenting adults, go to town. That means drawing the line when agreeing to a mutually monogamous relationship, but if that's not your bag, so be it.

Tried it once and found it to be the most uncomfortable intimate experience. A while later, I let myself get caught up in one to the point where when I realized I really didn't want it again, it was uncomfortable untangling from the situation. So, I can knock it with experience as not a thing for me. And that's why I don't understand the culture of those who do such on a regular basis.

Bullgrit

 

[Ahnehnois]

And that's why I don't understand the culture of those who do such on a regular basis.

Perhaps it's simply a consequence of your overall lifestyle.

For example, I was on the road recently with some guys who were prospecting for this sort of thing, talking about how they always look at time spent traveling as an opportunity for hookups. But I don't travel much; I'm more rooted. I think commitment would naturally be much harder for someone who travels a lot than for someone who stays in one place.

And then of course, there's the whole marriage thing (I'm assuming you're married based on posts elsewhere). Married life is very different form single life. And not everyone wants to or can get married. Even finding a true boy/girlfriend is not an easy thing. You might simply consider what the landscape is for someone who simply doesn't have a realistic option to commit (let alone someone who chooses not to).

 

[EscherEnigma]

Not only did they complain-people do that all the time-they actually got a substantial legal decision and regulatory changes.

There have also been significant legal issues surrounding breast feeding in public, and there's a go topless protest movement. Conversely, in Europe you can see topless ads in mainstream publications. America has a thing about breasts.

Hell, in some states you have to air brush men's nipples out of advertisements. There are literally billboards for wrestling where the bare-chested men are nipple-free.

 

[Kramodlog]

Hell, in some states you have to air brush men's nipples out of advertisements. There are literally billboards for wrestling where the bare-chested men are nipple-free.

You're kidding, right?

 

[EscherEnigma]

You're kidding, right?

I never kid about nipples.

 

[Kramodlog]

 

[Umbran]

As long as you're communicating, consenting adults, go to town.

Note, however, that even if you set aside the health and pregnancy concerns, for some folks this is not a good idea.

As a generalization - intimate contact has neurochemical and psychological effects beyond the short term. This is not surprising, as humans use sex for pair bonding. For some people, this is no big deal. For others, having a physically intimate relationship, but abandoning the emotional and social bonds can lead to depression. In the archetypal case, an individual tries to relieve the depression with more one-night-stands, and ends up in a bit of a vicious cycle.

 

[Bullgrit]

Hell, in some states you have to air brush men's nipples out of advertisements. There are literally billboards for wrestling where the bare-chested men are nipple-free.

States? Plural? Advertisements? Plural? Billboards? Plural?

Actually, it was one billboard, in one city, apparently over a misunderstanding. "However, buses all over town are still cruising the streets baring the original posters of the wrestlers --male nipples and all." http://www.tmz.com/2008/03/28/wwe-puts-the-squeeze-on-nipples/

See, when folks start pointing at one or two individual instances of stupidity, or mistakes, or personal over-zealousness, and then claim those minor instances are indicative of a vast pattern, any hope for intellectually honest discussion is lost.

Bullgrit

 

[Kramodlog]

See, when folks start pointing at one or two individual instances of stupidity, or mistakes, or personal over-zealousness, and then claim those minor instances are indicative of a vast pattern, any hope for intellectually honest discussion is lost.

Yeah, that be true if nipplegate was the only example. People have mentioned many examples that are problematic, pointing toward a pattern.

Heck, I'd argue that your misgivings with your own experience with a one nightstand comes from a shiness that takes roots in a represent sexuality thanks to the US's culture. But I'm missing some info on that one.