"Yes, I fully understand that farm is important to you; however, it has waited over two decades, and I must disagree - It is not "The most important thing in a man's life".
You see, on the way to finding your Weatherleaf Farm, I ran across both a vampire nest, and a village of cultists sacrificing people to some sort of Daedra. I do not think you want me to describe such things as innocents turned into zombies, only to be impaled beside the doors as some twisted ensign, or the other foul things I saw.
But at least Dar'ma is safely back with her mother, and not about to have her heart split open in a foul sacrifice.
So you will have to excuse me if I just have not gotten all the way to your farm yet.
I hope that elucidates you on the matter."
Sadly, although Elder Scrolls 4 is, to the best of my knowledge, the height of dynamic video game NPCs, the preceding scene could not be made reality.
But it does illustrate why a Paladin should be well-spoken.
...And restrained. Very restrained. And, I should add, understanding.
The farm is quite important to them, after all.