ssampier said:
The odd thing was that she flirting with me on a few ocassions (before I knew she had a boyfriend); wasn't just my wishful thinking either. She'd describe the sexy things she liked to wear to bed if she wanted to, regular cotton PJs if not.
There are a lot of women out there who like to do this. It comes from the concept of "harmless flirting". Women like to flirt, men like to score. The two concepts often collide in men not being able to sleep at night.
Seriously though, I rarely find flirting to be harmless. Especially if I like the woman and she knows it. Then, it's just a pain in the butt (or, depending on the degree of interest, the heart)!
One of my friends in a similar situation, but doesn't seem to realize the danger he's in. He went out with this girl once then she pulled an ex-boyfriend out of her hat, and told him that she would prefer to just be his friend.
Ouch.
The worst part is that he seems to be going along with this 'friendship' even though he told me he REALLY likes her. Just last night she called him, drunk as a skunk, complaining bitterly about her laptop and how she needs him to fix it for her. However, she refuses to let him come and help her with it that night, as she "doesn't want him to see her wasted".
Now, that could all be Code, but I doubt it. (I don't speak Code, BTW.) She's pulled this stuff before and treats him like one of her "girlfriends". She's called him to vent about her current relationship and the like, in the past. However, I doubt he'll listen to me, and maybe that's for the best. (Me being jaded and all.)
I just worry that he's heading for a hurt. I just have to keep reminding myself I'm his friend, not his mother.
Cheers!
KF72
He'll have to be played before he learns. Myself, I watched my friends being played and I was thinking I didn't want that. They told me, "When you meet the right girl, you'll think different." If it means acting like a dumb ass, no thanks.
