Nope. I laterally have never once thought that re-fluffing had to have consensus of everyone at the table. That if I said "My Magic Missiles" look like copper boomerangs" and someone else said "No, that looks stupid, you can't say that" that my magic missiles were now not allowed to look like copper boomerangs.This feels like you're trying to make a parody of an argument rather than actually arguing. Re-fluffing has always revolved around consensus. Otherwise it's just re-imagining, and it's a hell of a lot less fun that way.
If THAT'S the kind of table you play at... first of all, I am very, very sorry. But secondly, I do not believe your type of table is in any way a standard. Most likely, most tables haven't given either of our opinions and sides of this argument any real thought so there's no consensus to be had. I doubt most people care about what either of us are arguing for or against.