templar1138
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I've been playing on Roll20 for seven years, and one thing I've seen ramp up in the last couple has been GMs requesting preferred pronouns on their applications. The many vague profile names alone makes this understandable, but my name is Erik, and that's my displayed name on Roll20 as well, so I omit that part of the application. Regardless of whether I'm cis or trans, my name makes it clear that I'm a man.
Still, I can't help but feel that prospective GMs may be throwing out my application because of that omission. I have no proof, and I definitely am aware of other, more reasonable factors that could contribute. However, people tend to take extreme and unreasonable stances that detract from the idea of social equality.
Not interested in dating that boring person who happens to be black? You're a racist; Don't want to hang out with the coworker with a lisp who won't stop talking about his new leopard-print rubber gloves? You're a homophobe; Omit your pronouns because your name and/or appearance should make it obvious?....
I'm sorry if this thread is in the wrong place. Roll20 doesn't have off-topic forums anymore and I needed to get this off my chest. I've struggled with loneliness and depression for a while now, and tabletops over the internet are pretty much my only social option. I'd hate to think that I'm being rejected for not being comfortable with answering a question that is already answered through other visible things about me. And alluding to that in an answer would just come across as hostility.
EDIT: To be clear, the aforementioned loneliness and depression has been going on since long before the pandemic.
Still, I can't help but feel that prospective GMs may be throwing out my application because of that omission. I have no proof, and I definitely am aware of other, more reasonable factors that could contribute. However, people tend to take extreme and unreasonable stances that detract from the idea of social equality.
Not interested in dating that boring person who happens to be black? You're a racist; Don't want to hang out with the coworker with a lisp who won't stop talking about his new leopard-print rubber gloves? You're a homophobe; Omit your pronouns because your name and/or appearance should make it obvious?....
I'm sorry if this thread is in the wrong place. Roll20 doesn't have off-topic forums anymore and I needed to get this off my chest. I've struggled with loneliness and depression for a while now, and tabletops over the internet are pretty much my only social option. I'd hate to think that I'm being rejected for not being comfortable with answering a question that is already answered through other visible things about me. And alluding to that in an answer would just come across as hostility.
EDIT: To be clear, the aforementioned loneliness and depression has been going on since long before the pandemic.
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