I think it's the "idealized" that people get stuck on. If I say I'm having fun playing 4e, nobody ever tells me that I'm "idealizing" my play experience. But if I'm having fun playing AD&D (i.e. actually playing, right now, at the present time, as in the guys came over last night for a game) people talk about nostalgia as if it has to be a major driving force. "Idealizing" a game that happened 20 years ago makes sense. Not so much the game I was having fun with last night*.
*To be truthful, it has actually been 34 nights since I last played AD&D. Still not long enough for nostalgia to set in IMO, but I wanted to be perfectly honest.
Let me make sure I'm understanding what you're talking about here. Is it your claim that you can only idealize something abstract, something that you can't actually revisit?
That it'd be possible for me to idealize Mars but not Hawaii, because, heck, I just went to Hawaii a few months ago? That I could idealize the golden age of piracy, because I could never gather a crew on a sailing ship and attack Spanish shipping lanes in the Carribean, but that I
couldn't idealize the 80s because it would be possible for me to grow a mullet, wear Oakleys, drive a Chevy I-ROC and listen to nothing by Ratt, Twisted Sister and Quiet Riot casette tapes?
Because if I did all of the above, I would be really hard-pressed to say that I didn't idealize the 80s.
Yet, if I'm understanding you correctly, that's exactly what you're trying to claim.
OS dogmatism isn't really the topic either, but you keep bringing it up. Just as Pathfinder dogmatism doesn't define Pathfinder fandom, OS dogmatism doesn't define the OSR.
I never claimed that it defined it, I merely claimed that there's a very noticeable element to it. Unfortunately, it's a loud and noticeable enough element that from the outside looking in, it's sometimes the only thing that easy to see.
I don't for a minute believe that that's what the OSR
is, but it certainly and absolutely is on topic for the question the thread asks. In fact, I'm quite baffled that you would attempt to claim that it isn't.